Things I Want My Daughter to Know: Dress Like This – And You’ll Scare the Good Men Away!!!

Lord have mercy!  This is just insane.  I feel sorry for this woman, celebrity Nicky Hilton, but oh. my. gosh.  I don’t care WHAT is in fashion when you are a teen Little One, but you


And this was just days before this woman’s wedding day, where she chose a much more flattering dress (thank goodness).

But the damage was already done to her reputation.  It was reported (and maybe caught on camera?) that she accidentally FLASHED people in the first dress… again, just days before her wedding :O 😦 .  You may think that because she found maybe a good man that you can pull this off, too, but no… don’t even try that.  She’s rich, Sweetie, and you’re not a millionaire heiress lol!

No husband wants a woman who was flashing the public due to her stupidity in wearing an immodest dress, so it calls into question the kind of man she’s secured.

Think about it.  Coming from the man’s perspective, he’s marrying a woman who just flashed the public (and possibly the world) days before their wedding.  How would his family react to seeing that published?

“A beautiful woman who lacks discretion,

is like a gold ring in a pig’s snout.”


You’re going to have to get used to us saying “No,” when it comes to crazy fashion ideas or teen shenanigans in order to protect you.  A lot of it is going to be protecting you from yourself, in a way, because sometimes women seem to lack any shred of common sense!

Being Christian, this should bother the body of Christ and be something that’s talked about.

Dressing immodest just screams you want sexual attention

Over the years, it really has proven itself over and over again to me, that even the most modest seeming woman (no matter her age I think), seems to desire attention.  This happens even if she’s not aware of it consciously, but probably most are aware of it, and just suppress it or lie to themselves that it’s not that bad.  Even, unfortunately, sexual attention that is truly inappropriate.  This shows itself in different ways depending on the woman, but again, I’ve found this to be true across the board, no matter who you’re dealing with.

Dressing immodestly exacerbates this issue, and takes it to a whole new level of shameless advertising of one’s feminine body.  It really is making it obvious to men (and other women, who will not like it) that you are seeking sexual attention overtly.

You’ll scare the good men away

But perhaps the main reason this topic is so important for you to understand, is because if you do decide to dress like this once you’re grown up, you WILL NOT be attracting the kind of men who are of good character.  The kind of men who will make good, trustworthy husbands who actually have integrity.

To put it plainly, you’ll scare the good men away, and rightfully so, because good Christian men DO NOT want a woman (or wife) who dresses like a prostitute! 

I feel like this should be a given, and I know you’ll grow up hearing this rationally and practically so much that you’ll probably feel like this is a given, too, but apparently in our world, even Christian women like yourself should be allowed to wear skintight apparel, or spaghetti strap tops around men in public, or mini skirts, or a myriad of other immodest selections.  You will see as you grow up, that even in the church it is becoming “taboo” to enforce any kind of dress code, which DOES NOT benefit the fellow Christians (not the young men or older men, and certainly not the women who dress this way at Church).

So it’s either that you’ll scare the good men away, or they’ll just use you in a weak moment.  One thing for certain is that dressing like this will attract men of bad character.  Or it will encourage men of good character, to view YOU as having bad character.

Whichever way you look at it, it’s just not good for you, Sweet One.


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Dress to Impress!

I love dresses.  I absolutely, hands down, LOVE them!  Nothing makes me feel more empowered or beautiful as a woman than wearing a dress that is well-cut & flattering.  Pants are my loves too, but to feel so feminine?  A dress is the best!

So… recently, a bunch of things just went on sale from an especially awesome, totally sexy store… this sale ONLY happens twice a year…. drum roll…..

The Victoria’s Secret Semi-Annual!

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I love the textures, the bright brilliant colors, the soft grey & pink ballet combo.  Gold & beige with blonde hair will always to me, be beautiful.

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I’m sure most people don’t realize that Victoria’s Secret has a clothing line, but they do make some of the best cut dresses I’ve owned.  And their workout clothes are great, too, because you know… looking sexy everywhere you go is fun.

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And for fun, what I used to look like everyday as a working woman.  I do miss dressing for work… but staying in yoga pants is kind of awesome too. 🙂


(all photos from

The Sexy Wife

When a couple is dating, there are certain expectations that each person needs for the romance to develop.  The man has to pursue, plan, and woo the woman, while the woman flirts, dresses with careful consideration, fixes her hair or make-up in anticipation of their dates or time together.  While they are out on a date, they listen to each other with avid interest, she respects him and doesn’t put him down or make him feel stupid – and he likewise.  

I had never heard of a married couple dating each other until I was a freshman in college and part of a Christian group on campus.  One of the mentors, still in her twenties, was newly married and unknowingly made a lasting impression on all of us who watched her become an amazing woman, wife, and eventually mother.  She cared about the way she presented herself, she spoke of how important it was to have date nights together, she taught us how important intimacy was – and not just sex, but physically touching your husband – there is something so powerful in touch.

Take care of yourself.  Respect your husband – don’t ever humiliate or make him into a joke – you’d never do that when you dating, and if you had, you would’ve been filed into the guys category or women who only remain guys’ friends because they’re too guy-like!  Act like a woman.

“Obviously, wives are female; women; girls….  After marriage, and definitely after having children, too many wives contract the “Frump syndrome,” the symptoms of which include wearing flannel pajamas and socks, or sweatpants with oversized T-shirts, to bed instead of some girly thing with lace; not shaving legs or grooming nails; not washing, styling, or even combing hair; taking off (instead of freshening up) makeup from the day just before your husband comes home; using the toilet with him in the room; not making an attempt to smell sweet (with a little perfume or body oil); and never putting on sexy outfits… in front of your husband.

When women have called in to my radio program to say that they are unhappy in their marriages, but nothing particularly is actually wrong, I ask them if they have contracted this ailment.  Almost universally, the answer is yes.  When I suggest the obvious cure, I am confronted with some angry, annoyed, resentful, defensive women!  It’s worrisome when women embrace the notion that once they are married, they are entitled to be loved, adored, protected, gifted, romanced, obeyed, and provided for without question, without reciprocation, and definitely without any effort on their part to create the emotional and psychological environment that would more likely get them all those desires.”  Schlessinger

Be a sexy wife – your husband will absolutely, hands-down, love it, and you will reap amazing rewards for treating him like a man.