This will be another post on the things my husband and I talked about this weekend on our long drives. Although it’s a not really a “feel good,” romantic post, I thought it was a good spiritual growth topic to cover here.
How do you overcome evil with good, especially when someone has done something truly evil against you or someone you love?
How do you deal with Christians like that – true believers who engage in character defamation, spreading slander about you or your family, or worse, who make false accusations against you or your family members, and then go on to feel zero guilt over it? So disturbing right? And rightfully angering.
I’ve learned the hard way that it’s much better to trust that God will be your Defender against such people, that He will help “set the record straight” when the time is right for things to be exposed. And I do believe things are always eventually exposed. It may take a long time, but God is a just God, and He brings to light that which people would want to be kept in darkness. You can be sure He doesn’t let evil doers get away with evil acts. Even more so His own children (Christians), as the Bible warns He punishes those He loves… because it’s the right thing for Him to do.
It’s good to trust God knows what He’s doing. I personally find so much peace in resting on that promise. And if you’re going through persecution for speaking truth, you can also rest on the promise that you are suffering through something that will ultimately be a blessing to you.
11“Blessed are you when people insult you and persecute you, and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of Me.
12“Rejoice and be glad, for your reward in heaven is great; for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you.”
To me, this is a beautiful promise… we have hope through persecution, and can trust that God will deal justly with those who do insult us, slander us, and falsely accuse us of all kinds of evil.
It’s God’s job, ultimately, and it’s our job to trust He does right by us.
When we run around and try to “correct” any and every person who is mocking or insulting or even spreading falsehoods about us (which I definitely tried to do in the past… unsuccessfully), we’re more concerned about “people-pleasing,” and protecting our reputation than in trusting God. I don’t think it’s always wrong to try to confront someone falsely accusing you of something, but in trying to, you take on the risk of being more tempted to sin. So in my opinion it’s best to stand back and allow God to deal with ALL of it, I’ve found it’s much easier to have peace that way – which is what He would want.
I have found I am able to trust that not only will He provide protection (and He has, God is so faithful!), but He also gives us the promise that He repays and takes vengeance for us. As unChristian as that sounds, it’s right there in the Bible for a reason (probably to scare people away from doing evil):
“Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place to wrath: for it is written,
‘Vengeance is Mine; I will repay,’
said the Lord.”
Some commentary from Barne’s Notes on this passage and verse:
“For it is written – Deuteronomy 32:35.
Vengeance is mine – That is, it belongs to me (God) to inflict revenge. This expression implies that it is “improper” for people to interfere with that which properly belongs to God. When we are angry, and attempt to avenge ourselves, we should remember, therefore, that we are infringing on the prerogatives of the Almighty.
I will repay … – This is said in substance, though not in so many words, in Deuteronomy 32:35-36. Its design is to assure us that those who deserve to be punished, shall be; and that, therefore, the business of revenge may be safely left in the hands of God. Though “we” should not do it, yet if it ought to be done, it will be done. This assurance will sustain us, not in the “desire” that our enemy shall be punished, but in the belief that “God” will take the matter into his own hands; that he can administer it better than we can; and that if our enemy “ought” to be punished, he will be. “We,” therefore, should leave it all with God. That God will vindicate his people, is clearly and abundantly proved in 2 Thessalonians 1:6-10; Revelation 6:9-11; Deuteronomy 32:40-43.”
My husband had me read some verses this weekend along these lines while in the car, and it was so good to hear his opinion on my questions.
One of the passages was David asking God to make his enemies ashamed and disgraced for what they’d done to him. It’s so comforting to know how human King David was 🙂 I totally relate to his passage of desiring to see enemies be disgraced and ashamed of their actions. It’s nice to know that he felt those feelings toward his enemies, and yet He was called a man after God’s own heart. God doesn’t seem to hold our humanity against us regarding our strong emotions, ❤ but He loves us too much to let us stay in those emotions to the point where they would destroy us (and others).
Which brings me to the second passage my husband had me read with him 🙂 which was Jesus’ thoughts on loving our enemies:
“43 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor(fellow man) and hate your enemy.’ 44 But I say to you, [n]love [that is, unselfishly seek the best or higher good for] your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, 45 so that you may [show yourselves to] be the children of your Father who is in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on those who are evil and on those who are good, and makes the rain fall on the righteous [those who are morally upright] and the unrighteous [the unrepentant, those who oppose Him]. 46 For if you love[only] those who love you, what reward do you have? Do not even the tax collectors do that? 47 And if you greet only your brothers [wishing them God’s blessing and peace], what more [than others] are you doing? Do not even the Gentiles [who do not know the Lord] do that?48 You, therefore, will be perfect [growing into spiritual maturity both in mind and character, actively integrating godly values into your daily life], as your heavenly Father is perfect.”
I seriously laughed at how these two passages seem so at odds with each other… and told my husband outright that I much preferred David’s response! 😀 I knew of both of them, but it’s always wonderful to hear my husband explain these things and talk it over him candidly. ❤
They do seem at odds… one calling for your enemies to be ashamed and disgraced for how they’ve treated you, and the next claiming that if you don’t also love them, you haven’t achieved spiritual maturity. In reality, the second passage also lines up with overcoming evil with good in Romans 12:14-21.
“14 Bless those who persecute you [who cause you harm or hardship]; bless and do not curse [them]. 15 Rejoice with those who rejoice [sharing others’ joy], and weep with those who weep [sharing others’ grief]. 16 Live in harmony with one another; do not be haughty [conceited, self-important, exclusive], but associate with humble people [those with a realistic self-view]. Do not overestimate yourself. 17 Never repay anyone evil for evil. Take thought for what is right and gracious and proper in the sight of everyone. 18 If possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19 Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave the way open for God’s wrath [and His judicial righteousness]; for it is written [in Scripture], “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord.20 But if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him a drink; for by doing this you will heap [e]burning coals on his head.”21 Do not be overcome and conquered by evil, but overcome evil with good.”
It ALL makes sense when you view it through trusting God to be the ultimate Judge and Avenger of wrongs.
We are supposed to be able to overcome someone’s evil toward us that may have truly harmed us by not allowing their actions to destroy our peace and love in our own lives. The only way to do that is to be able to FULLY rely on God that He will repay, that we can be kind to them (which heaps burning coals on their head), and understand they are in God’s hands and that we don’t have to concern ourselves with their punishment.
He is just, and like He said… He will repay.