This little guy – every Spring – he builds a little nest inside the edge of our house where it opens somewhat to the attic with his mate. And then he sits in this tree, always in the same spot for years now, and chirps and chirps and chirps to his little hearts’ content!
I saw him again for the first time in months and ran back inside to grab my camera and take this shot. I adore him, and I talk to him (and probably look like a crazy lady LOL) and he stops his incessant chirping to look down and cock his head at me (likely wondering why this crazy woman tries to talk to him) and we have a moment 😀 .
He’s just so handsome! Look at his perfectly designed, defiant and proud little bird-face! He may be small and fluffy, but he is stout at heart I assure you!
Anyway… we always seem to have the same birds each year, at least, I think they may be the same ones. There’s the sparrow family who produce babies under the edge of our roof, always in the same spot, there’s the red bird (cardinal) and his mate, who two years ago I caught a shot of them “kissing” as they fed each other from our makeshift feeders.
However this year I discovered a new little one when I was out early gardening. It’s a male mocking bird – and oh what a songbird he is!
Springtime. ❤ Here are some verses I found that stood out to me recently when savoring this season:
“The heavens declare the GLORY of God, and the skies above proclaim the work of His hands!”
“For behold, the winter is past;
the rain is over and gone.
12 The flowers appear on the earth,
the time of singing has come,
and the voice of the turtledove
is heard in our land.
13 The fig tree ripens its figs,
and the vines are in blossom;
they give forth fragrance.
Arise, my love, my beautiful one,
and come away.”
Song of Solomon 2:11-13
“Be patient, therefore, brothers, until the coming of the Lord. See how the farmer waits for the precious fruit of the earth, being patient about it, until it receives the early and the late rains.”
It always fascinates me how the cycle of the new life occurs and grows so suddenly from what seems like deadness or barrenness around it. Each year I remember the music from The Secret Garden (1993), when everything is coming alive again, and baby animals are being born. It’s just so beautiful.
I grew up in the country, on land that was wild and breathtakingly beautiful to my childlike eyes. I used to pretend I was inside my own secret garden 🙂 it was heavenly.
This is the song I hear in my head every Spring, though. I’d love for you readers to listen to it.
It still gets me every year… the intricate beauty and joy of those notes!
So… my oldest has officially inspired me to start painting again. I think it’s been… over 10 years since I’ve actually sat down and painted anything serious on an actual canvas. Finger painting with toddlers – yes! But actually sit down, sketch out a portrait and landscape, do all the colors and shading and back-painting a real painting requires? Nope.
That actually changed today, and I sat down and painted a rather large sized canvas of my oldest (because he’s the one who has inspired me to paint again 😀 ) when he was about 2 years old.
This is what happened today:
It just took the afternoon, and it’s going to be a gift to my sweet Mom… I had to keep stopping to tend to the kids and then to make dinner 🙂 but wow was it fun to paint again.
I used to draw portraits in high school for fun… and then my friends started actually paying me to draw them. I could never draw (or paint) faces of people, even though I tried a lot growing up… until finally something “clicked” when I was 17, and suddenly, it made sense in my brain and I was able to draw them.
Honestly, this felt so relaxing and was so easy tonight. I think I’m going to make it a point to paint more LOL. I forgot how enjoyable it was…. 🙂
All the tiny little details, the millions of leaf prints and different shades of green and blues… it does take some time, but it is so worth it to make all the little leaves.
Someone just turned 8 months recently! We are so ready for SPRING… it’s been raining for a couple of weeks – gray days, no sunshine, but now the sun is just beginning to peak through the trees.
Her little pink onesie says,”There’s No One Like Dad!” And it is SO TRUE! And so cute! My husband is seriously the best father I could ever have asked for to our children. She adores him, as they all do.
She is just the happiest little baby I’ve ever seen, and so easy! Her joy affects everyone who knows her – even the girls who take care of her while we’re working out at our gym, just adore her and tell us they love when we come in because she’s such a sweet, happy baby!
And she laughs so much! She thinks everything her crazy, wild brothers do is hilarious! LOL 😀
I can’t wait for more sunny days, gardening to my heart’s content ❤ and playing in the yard with our kids! The Spring and Summer are just such a welcome change… yes, even for Texans ;) LOL
Hi Dr. Laura!
My husband is easy. He’s pretty much in the mood all the time. Whenever, wherever… we have sex at least once a day, sometimes two or three (and we’re in our 40’s). But because women are different, I found that it’s good to always stay “prepared”…
One way is, I NEVER go to bed with clothes on. The second is that I have a few things I rotate inside of my head about my husband throughout the day. Things I love about him, things that attracted me to him in the first place. I focus fully on one or two things and before I know it, I’m ready to go. And yes, even with a headache.
My mother taught me to never say no to my husband, but I realize that there is a difference between just being a willing participant and being right there in the moment with him. It’s my very favorite part of the life we share, and I think it’s his, too.
I’ve talked on the blog before a few times, about how I listened to Dr. Laura on the radio fairly often when I was a little girl. My mom always had her on (when she was on air), and wow was it insightful LOL! The female callers complaining about their husbands were always the worst and most annoying people to behold. They’d complain about their husband’S normal male-habits, or negative things like having a porn addiction, or that he didn’t clean the house the way she wished he would, or that he had no motivation to move up in his career or make more money, and on and on the complaints were.
She’d speak very harshly to them, although I enjoyed hearing her tell them those things, I always thought to myself that being that harsh with the women was not something I’d want to do. But perhaps I was wrong… ? Maybe those types of women truly do need a smack to the head or to be treated as harshly as they’re more than likely treating their husbands. A lot of the stuff I heard that the men were going through (when the men would call in) sounded like emotional and psychological torture or abuse! So maybe I was wrong to think they didn’t need some very harsh “slamming” of their own behaviors, perhaps that’s the only way to help them gain humility – by giving them a mirror to see themselves the way other people see them.
And how many women that were like that, were Christian women going to church? You would think Christian women would set the bar high for being kind and gentle and extremely respectful of their husband and his “flaws,” guarding him and protecting him from strangers’ misjudgment. I could always tell, even as a young girl, that these women were very sure they were “right” and “good” even though it was pretty obvious they were gossiping and slandering their husbands to strangers on the radio.
The good callers were the ones who were humble, and who listened to Dr. Laura’s advice and allowed her to call them out if what they were doing was wrong. Like the woman who penned this letter above ❤ She’s taken Dr. Laura’s advice to have LOTS of sex with her husband, and to not only do it because of duty, but to do it enthusiastically and with a good heart towards him!
“It’s my very favorite part of the life we share, and I think it’s his, too.”
Yes! I’ve told my man this many times 😀
Let’s look at her tips for having a better sex life:
- NEVER go to bed with clothes on (lol… yea that does work!)
- Focus on good things about your husband throughout the day – things you like about him as a man, and things that made you attracted to him in the first place
- Don’t just have sex more, have MORE FUN SEX. Don’t just give him “duty sex” (bleh) but actually enjoy giving him sex
I actually think there are different “kinds” of sex (no I’m not talking about sex positions – Eek!). I mean there can be different motivations for having sex. One of my favorite motivations to give my husband sex is being thankful for him and for everything he does for us as a family.
I call it “Gratitude Sex!”
It’s when you’re so thankful that your husband provides for you, is such a good father to your kids, and is so good in a myriad of little ways, that you just want to knock his socks off with really good (grateful) sex!
I think husbands are often taken for granted. They’re expected to work hard and expected to do the dirty jobs around the house… but do we as wives really thank them enough?
Is it so bad to thank them with our bodies?
In my experience, it’s more than good 😀
I’m starting a new blog page where I will file posts on biblical women. It should be fun and fascinating to delve into their different lives and really dig deep for what we can learn from them as women who love God.
They will be a little controversial though. My short Abigail series took some readers by surprise, and revealed her story through a perspective that isn’t usually taken in our modern day. Here’s a hint: Everyone likes to say she was the perfect example of the UN-submissive wife to a foolish husband, but I found God leading me to the exact opposite conclusion! I encourage you to read it if you haven’t had a good look at why the way she treated her foolish husband Nabal made her stand out with respect and honor. It may not be what you expect.
I’ve been thinking though, recently, about Sarah, Abraham’s wife. God seems to have put her on my heart for a few months now, and I’ve been quietly studying her words, reactions, as well as what other people had to say about her across the Bible.
I didn’t know it, but she is actually the most mentioned woman character in the Bible – even more so than Mary, the mother of Jesus!
I had no idea she was so important. And it’s been odd how often she has come to my mind in these past few months, along with parts of her story, and always her actions or reactions. It’s been weird I’ll say that much.
What makes her so interesting to me?
It’s the way she obeyed her husband without fear,
and is honored repeatedly for it in God’s Word.
It’s taken me a long time to see her through this lens. When I was a child growing up in a Christian school, we learned about the biblical men and women all the time. I mostly viewed Sarah as the woman who dared to laugh at God and was shocked by her nerve. I didn’t like, or relate, in any way to her attitude. I understand her circumstances more now, and can see how human she was when hearing the response of her pregnancy in such old age. To me she finds redemption in being mentioned in the New Testament as the model of the kind of woman who is beautiful in God’s eyes. But again, it took me a long time to understand what all that meant.
Let’s look at the passage of Scripture I’m referring to specifically:
“Let your beauty not be external – the braiding of hair and wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes – but the inner person of the heart, the lasting beauty of a gentle and tranquil spirit, which is precious in God’s sight.
For in the same way the holy women who hoped in God long ago adorned themselves by being subject to their husbands, like Sarah who obeyed Abraham, calling him lord.
You become her children when you do what is good and have no fear in doing so.” 1 PETER 3:3-6
I’m going to take this apart in the same way I did for the Proverbs 31 woman piece by piece (but for length’s sake – not delving into the Greek meaning of each word this time). Here we go!
What kind of beauty is “precious in God’s sight?”
- The beauty found in a woman’s heart – her character and inner beauty
- The lasting beauty of a gentle and peaceful spirit
- Beautifying (adorning) yourself by being submissive to your husband, like the holy women of old, like Sarah who obeyed her husband and called him lord
- When you submit (subject) yourself to your husband, and have no fear in trusting him (doing so), you achieve the beauty this passage is talking about
How amazing that this passage is directing us to be like Sarah, not only in the way of disregarding showy outward beauty, but also focusing on the character and actions we are to develop if we want to have a lasting beauty that is “precious in God’s sight.”
And the key to achieving this kind of lasting beauty of a gentle and quiet (peaceful) spirit, is to fully submit to obeying our husbands, and to respect and revere them. Like Sarah did when she called her husband “lord,” we are directed to imitate her behavior, and “become her children” when we live these things out in our day to day lives.
This is all well and good, right? But have you looked at Sarah’s life with Abraham? Have you studied enough to understand what this passage in 1 Peter is implying? When it says that she obeyed him, doing what was good (submitting to him), and without fear, that is no light and ordinary statement.
This woman obeyed her husband during some of the toughest circumstances imaginable.
And with a good attitude.
And without fear.
Her love, faith, and trust in her husband and in God are so beautiful when we closely study her story. She has inspired me by her faith SO MUCH in the past months, constantly popping into my head at the strangest times, that I had to write this down here, hoping that it would bring joy and inspiration to someone else. ❤ 🙂
In our modern age where Christian wives seem to be constantly looking for flaws in their husbands’ leadership style so that they don’t have to submit to him (and obey him), Sarah’s story is a huge wake-up call as to how we’re really supposed to be responding.
How God expects us to respond.
I can hear the screeching of the wheels on the pavement now…
But Sarah obeyed when it was not convenient!
Yes, she definitely did. Many times! This woman had so much trust in her husband and in God, that yes, she willingly obeyed even when it was not just annoying, but even when it was extremely difficult.
Just the other day I was spending time with God early in the morning before anyone else in the house was awake, and suddenly a map from the back of my Bible fell out and onto the floor in front of my foot. I expected it to just be another journey showing the different routes Paul took on his mission trips, since those are pretty much the only maps I’ve seriously studied. But when I looked closely at it in the dim morning light, I saw it was actually Abraham’s travels when God called him and Sarai to leave Ur! I had never really appreciated how far they had to travel, and keep in mind they had no idea where God was wanting them to end up. It hit me again (like it has for months now) just how amazing her trust and faith in her husband and in God were – to follow her husband like that. Away from everything she had ever known, and over such a difficult journey, through dangerous foreign lands, and not even knowing where she would end up with him in the end. Talk about trust and faith producing a beautiful obedience in the heart of a wife toward her husband!
This is a picture of the page of my Bible that fell out when I was doing my morning talking to God and reading His Word. When I look at this journey, I immediately think about how ridiculously hard that would have been for a woman to travel back then, in that kind of desert and arid weather, with their shoes, and just the plain, overall discomfort she’d have and the temptation to complain or whine or ask “Are we there yet?!” Honestly, it makes our long family trips to New Mexico from south Texas seem like a breeze in our air-conditioned and roomy van!
As Christian wives, have we behaved as well as Sarah did when she followed Abraham on a truly difficult journey, not even knowing where they were going? How many times have we whined about little inconveniences, wanting the easy way out?
Maybe our husbands need us to get up early and help with making lunches and getting breakfast on the table before the kids leave to school or before he has to go to work. I know in our family, it’s my job to make it as easy as possible for my husband to spend critical time with our older son in the morning, since he works most evenings. Even if the baby wakes up several times in the night, I still want to make sure it doesn’t affect their time together – it’s the only time during the day (most days at least) when my husband does a devotion with our son and leads him into understanding the deep meanings of Scripture. He gives him advice, listens to his problems or concerns, and it’s a truly beautiful time that would not be possible if he was having to do all the work I usually handle for them in the morning as far as getting everything ready for them to leave. The way I see it is that I can either have a bad attitude or demand I get my own sleep (a convenience for sure, but not necessary since I can nap later on in the day), or I can serve them with a happy heart and be grateful that he’s spending this time investing godly principles into our son’s heart. I choose to be grateful!
You can apply this to anything your husband may want you to do, but doesn’t line up with your idea of easy or convenient for yourself. Maybe he wants you to make good, healthy meals for the family, but you’re stuck on fast food on the go, or cafeteria food so you don’t have to wash the dishes? Maybe he’d like you to make and pack him lunches everyday, but you don’t want to spend the time serving him like that because it cuts into your time in the morning for yourself to eat?
If our husbands need us to do something that is hard or difficult, do we carry an attitude of resentment toward our task or him for asking more of us? Maybe your husband wants you to stay home to raise your young children, even though it means living on a lesser budget that makes life more difficult. Are you doing it with the attitude described in 1 Peter 3? Or perhaps he wants you to work and put your young children in a daycare – something that’s heartbreaking and hard for a mother to do? Are you trusting him and God that He will provide safety and protection over them and ultimately redeem the situation in the end? I know this sounds a lot easier than it actually is when carrying these things out, but it was never promised that living this Christian life would be easy or convenient by any means. Our true test of our faith in God is when we do these things, and do them not out of just a sense of duty, but with a glad and happy heart!
Obviously the best response is to do what is needed, and practice more gratitude if we’re tempted to resentment over having to endure inconveniences that come with following.
I know this sounds hard, it’s probably unlike anything you’ve ever read before when it comes to marriage and how we’re supposed to act in regard to our husbands leading us. But the Bible talks constantly about the value of doing the difficult tasks needed to be done. And whatever we do, we are to do it as though we are doing it for God. When we act like Sarah and “do what is good,” and “without fear,” we are honoring God with our choice to obey our husbands, even when it is inconvenient to do so.
But Sarah obeyed even when Abraham was making poor choices!
This is a hard one for Christian wives in this day and age. If her husband is doing ANYTHING even the tiniest bit “wrong” in her eyes, his wife is usually quick to point it out to him and try to get him to be better in his leadership.
I’m sure we’ve all seen examples of this. It’s common now to know or see Christian wives who refuse to fully submit to their husbands until his porn addiction is gone. Or maybe it’s his bad eating habits that bother her that she tries to change. Or his love of watching sports on Sundays, when she thinks he should be helping her fold the laundry. Or his decision not to do family devotions or spend time reading God’s Word in the way she’d like to see. There are so many things that wives want their husbands to be doing or not doing before they’ll even think of obeying and submitting to his leadership.
But that’s not the way God intended marriage to work.
A wife can’t demand her husband be perfect in her eyes and do everything the way she desires it to be before she’s supposed to actually submit to his leadership for their family!
If she’s demanding that he change, nagging him to go to counseling to fix his issues, or trying to get him to change in any way, she’s the one who is doing the leading in the marriage – and expecting him to submit to her wants, desires, and needs.
Even if a husband is leading in an imperfect way, we as wives are still called to obey. His leadership is not contingent only on leading perfectly, and never making mistakes or bad choices. Like Sarah, we become “her daughters” when we submit to our husbands’ leadership.
But Sarah obeyed even when Abraham led her (and other people) into sin and deception!
Yes, she did. Again, it speaks to her faith and trust in her husband and in God that she was able to follow Abraham even when it was not the right thing for either of them to do. The Bible is still clear that she did what was good by obeying him and subjecting herself to his leadership.
Let’s take a look at the scriptures where these incidents occurred:
10Now there was a famine in the land, and Abram went down to Egypt to live there for a while because the famine was severe. 11As he was about to enter Egypt, he said to his wife Sarai, “I know what a beautiful woman you are. 12When the Egyptians see you, they will say, ‘This is his wife.’ Then they will kill me but will let you live. 13Say you are my sister, so that I will be treated well for your sake and my life will be spared because of you.”
14When Abram came to Egypt, the Egyptians saw that Sarai was a very beautiful woman. 15And when Pharaoh’s officials saw her, they praised her to Pharaoh, and she was taken into his palace. 16He treated Abram well for her sake, and Abram acquired sheep and cattle, male and female donkeys, male and female servants, and camels.
17But the Lord inflicted serious diseases on Pharaoh and his household because of Abram’s wife Sarai.18So Pharaoh summoned Abram. “What have you done to me?” he said. “Why didn’t you tell me she was your wife? 19Why did you say, ‘She is my sister,’ so that I took her to be my wife? Now then, here is your wife. Take her and go!” 20Then Pharaoh gave orders about Abram to his men, and they sent him on his way, with his wife and everything he had.
And then it happened a couple of decades later, almost exactly the same as the first time. Abraham’s faith was still not complete in this area, but did Sarah nag him? Did she resent him for not having more faith to not place her in another ruler’s harem (again)?
20:1 Abraham journeyed from there to the Negev region and settled between Kadesh and Shur. While he lived as a temporary resident in Gerar, 2 Abraham said about his wife Sarah, “She is my sister.” So Abimelech, king of Gerar, sent for Sarah and took her. 3 But God appeared to Abimelech in a dream at night and said to him, “You are as good as dead because of the woman you have taken, for she is someone else’s wife.” 4 Now Abimelech had not gone near her. He said, “Lord, would you really slaughter an innocent nation? 5 Did Abraham not say to me, ‘She is my sister’? And she herself said, ‘He is my brother.’ I have done this with a clear conscience and with innocent hands!” 6 Then in the dream God replied to him, “Yes, I know that you have done this with a clear conscience. That is why I have kept you from sinning against me and why I did not allow you to touch her. 7 But now give back the man’s wife. Indeed he is a prophet and he will pray for you; thus you will live. But if you don’t give her back, know that you will surely die along with all who belong to you.”
8 Early in the morning Abimelech summoned all his servants. When he told them about all these things, they were terrified. 9 Abimelech summoned Abraham and said to him, “What have you done to us? What sin did I commit against you that would cause you to bring such great guilt on me and my kingdom? You have done things to me that should not be done!” 10 Then Abimelech asked Abraham, “What prompted you to do this thing?” 11 Abraham replied, “Because I thought, ‘Surely no one fears God in this place. They will kill me because of my wife.’ 12 What’s more, she is indeed my sister, my father’s daughter, but not my mother’s daughter. She became my wife. 13 When God made me wander from my father’s house, I told her, ‘This is what you can do to show your loyalty to me: Every place we go, say about me, “He is my brother.”’” 14 So Abimelech gave sheep, cattle, and male and female servants to Abraham. He also gave his wife Sarah back to him. 15 Then Abimelech said, “Look, my land is before you; live wherever you please.” 16 To Sarah he said, “Look, I have given a thousand pieces of silver to your ‘brother.’ This is compensation for you so that you will stand vindicated before all who are with you.” 17 Abraham prayed to God, and God healed Abimelech, as well as his wife and female slaves so that they were able to have children. 18 For the Lord had caused infertility to strike every woman in the household of Abimelech because he took Sarah, Abraham’s wife. ©NET
It’s hard to believe her amazing attitude in all of this! Her husband expected her to show her loyalty to him by misleading (lying by omission that she really was his wife and not just his half-sister) other people! Again, how does this compare to how we respond to our husbands’ failings or moments when he may have a lack of faith? Do we keep our faith in him even when we see his doubts and fears, or do we demand he be better for us and lead us more to our liking?
The biblical response is to have faith in him and in our all-powerful God. That even if our husbands make a mistake, or have their doubts, that ultimately God is still in control, and that we are safe in the palm of His hand.
Sometimes it is important to stop a man from sinning, like Abigail did, by using her gracious character and inner beauty to calm a King’s rage and murderous intent. You can read my thoughts on Abigail’s beautiful actions here (PART 1), and here (PART 2).
But Sarah’s silence in these situations was wise and showed her heroic faith! It wasn’t silence out of timidity or sinful “giving way to fear.” The Bible is clear that she did not give way to fear, in fact the attitude she displayed “that of a peaceful and tranquil spirit,” is translated to controlled strength and tranquility that arises from deep within. That kind of control, feminine strength of character, and peace in times of trouble, can only come from God and having a rock solid trust in Him.
When studying the context around these passages, I found that historically when a ruler saw a stranger’s wife that was beautiful and desirable, he was free to kill the stranger in order to take the woman for himself. However, if she was traveling with a family member (kin) like a brother or a father, then the ruler would simply negotiate a price for taking her as his bride (or concubine), and the male family member would be spared (maybe even given a prestigious place in their society).
So Sarah and Abraham found themselves in life and death situations when they were traveling as a couple in these foreign lands.
Now stop and think about this for a minute. Can you IMAGINE how a modern day Christian wife would handle something like that?!?! Let’s go through some mental contrasting how wives in our age would respond to that scenario, compared with how Sarah responded and then is praised afterward for doing the right thing:
- Modern day wives would give way to fear. They’d panic when seeing their husband was making decisions that looked questionable, or if he was lying to ruler’s about who she really was.
- Modern day wives would be upset that he “demand” or expect her loyalty to him to be shown in this way.
- Modern day wives would be mad at their husbands for not “protecting” them from the ruler’s lust and desire to have sex with her because of her beauty.
- They’d be upset that their husband didn’t stand up to the ruler and engage in a (likely deadly) fight, sacrificing his life for her honor!
- They’d be livid that he allowed her to be placed in another man’s harem.
- Or they’d take advantage of having the opportunity to have sex with a powerful ruler! How many times have we heard wives admit on the radio that they’d cheat with a famous man if they had the chance?
- Or they’d make it through like Sarah did, in one piece, but still hold on to the anger and resentment of being degraded like that. When they got back to their Christian groups, they’d throw their husbands under a bus by complaining to other wives just what their husbands tried to do to them when they were on a trip!
- Or MUCH WORSE in my opinion, they’d drag him to the leaders in their church to get them to “counsel” him (effectively AMOGing him or criticizing his leadership as “poor” and “ill-effective”) until he felt he had to follow her ideas and designs for their marriage.
We may be Christian wives trying to do the right thing, but we still have a sinful nature that leads us astray and into not honoring or submitting to our husbands if we aren’t careful to study these ancient texts and learn how to act in the ways God desires for us. We want to display that kind of beauty that is so precious in God’s sight, right? Then that means we have to take Sarah’s examples here, when she submitted to her husband’s leadership, seriously.
Go back over the bullet point list of ways modern wives would react to the situation Sarah found herself in. Have you reacted in one of those ways in the past? It’s never too late to repent and humble yourself, and to start honoring your husband. Sarah doesn’t do ANY of those things! She doesn’t even seem to hold on to any resentment, and the Bible is usually quick to point out when a man or woman has misgivings or ill-feelings. If she was holding on to resentment or using his mistakes to hold over him later on, she wouldn’t be held up as the example we’re supposed to model in Peter 3.
No, it seems her actions are in line with how 1 Peter 3 describes her character as having inner beauty of the heart. She loved him, she didn’t want him to die. So she submitted to his plan to lie to the rulers of the land, and even be taken into their harems, so that she could keep her husband alive and trusted that God would make everything right.
Let’s look again at her qualities that made her character precious in God’s sight:
- She had a peaceful and quite spirit – not a panicky, or nagging, or complaining, or bitter, or resentful spirit
- She is called precious in God’s sight for obeying Abraham and for subjecting herself to him and his leadership.
- She is honored for calling him “lord,” even though he subjected her to doing something that was wrong and deceptive and leading others into sin.
It cannot be understated that Sarah was honored for obeying Abraham – and not giving way to fear when she did – even though his leadership was less than perfect (1 Peter 3:5-6).
She not only was honored in the passage we have unpacked here, she is the first woman mentioned in the wonderful chapter that outlines all the “Heroes of Faith,” Hebrews chapter 11. When I was 11 years old, our school had us memorize this entire chapter. It was so beautiful to recite and memorize each person mentioned and honored for their courageous faith displayed in critical times of their life. Their examples were glorified forever in God’s Holy Word because they decided to make the right choice. To have faith even when it was extremely hard or inconvenient.
Again, this is not something we as Christian wives can just gloss over and forget about. Sarah, with all the mistakes or poor choices Abraham may have made in leading her, is named among the Heroes of Faith for choosing to obey him, follow him when it was hard, not complain or hold resentment against him, and even follow him into circumstances that caused others to sin!
Her heroic faith coupled with her beautiful character in choosing to obey Abraham, is an amazing testimony to her trust in God, that His will would prevail in those circumstances, and that she would be taken care of.
May we have faith like this, and seek to honor and respect our husbands with the kind of fierce commitment and obedience that Sarah had toward Abraham.
RELATED READING –
That Stepford Gal’s post Women Should Be Seen & Not Heard (using your beauty to influence and save people or entire countries!)
This is a great video. I urge all you readers to watch it. It’s SO. GOOD.
I found it about two or three months ago, and it’s just repeated wisdom of what I’ve heard all my life growing up in a strong, Christian school from age 4-15, having strong Christian parents, and then mentors who have poured into my life.
I feel so lucky (not sure “blessed” would be the right word here) – but seriously lucky to have had all those people in my life, to the point where this message is not new to me, but wonderful to have so much wisdom piled into such a short video. We’re all at the mercy of where God places us – what kind of parents we will have is probably the biggest deciding factor on how our lives will turn out. And yes, I have some “survivors guilt” I think from having such wise, wonderful people for parents.
Anyway… no matter what you’re going through, and this message seems to speak to many things, I hope you find comfort in this video.
Our sweet, mischievous dalmatian (who sometimes drives us insane 😀 ) loves our babies! I can’t believe how good he is with them, but then again dals have lots of babies of their own as a breed, and the males are actually involved with their pups – they’re good doggie fathers ❤
So he’s gentle and protective with our kids – it’s so cool to watch.
He’s like our gorgeous nanny-dog who helps me watch the kids… kind of like the one from Peter Pan 😀 it’s nice.
And our sweet baby girl is about to turn 7 months this month! It’s hard to believe how fast time has flown by. She just got her ears pierced a couple of days ago, and she looks so beautifully feminine with those little baby earrings ❤
I’m so grateful for all the gifts we’ve been given, surrounded by love and crazy little kids!
We just got back from a weekend trip – it was fun, exciting, and relaxing somehow all at the same time. 🙂 Since we were in the car for a few hours (both going and coming home), we had a lot of time to talk and reflect on the years we’ve had together ❤ . It’s just been so beautiful – even through trials and such with outside forces, we’ve always felt like we faced them together – not as if the trials put us at odds.
Somehow it came up in those hours of talking, about my husband’s past – and he told me about a girl he had really liked in high school (he’s told me before, we both know about each other’s past relationships) – he thought she was gorgeous and just the perfect angel he’d love to marry – but he was too shy to ever have asked her. If you’ve read our story, him being too shy almost cost him our entire life together, as it prevented him from asking me until I was already in a relationship!
Anyway, he reminded me of her backstory and what she did in college and after. She was Catholic, but in name only, and turned extremely wild and slept with a lot of guys… something he told me would have torn him apart if he had been with her. But thankfully they went their separate ways and he forgot about her for the most part.
He saw her picture recently and brought it up in this conversation that she looks so unlike what she used to – that the years of sleeping around and partying made her beauty (and boy did she have it!!) really fade and made her look older and harder.
She’s married now, he said, and has one kid, but he told me this weekend in the car, that he was so thankful he married me and that he avoided this other girl.
I feel sad for her in a way, this is definitely not a “gloating” post or anything like that. But it is a topic I’m going to eventually let our daughter know.
It’s important to be a virgin when you marry your husband.
It’s CRUCIAL to let him know EVERYTHING you’ve done (good and especially anything bad) so that he knows you intimately – true intimacy and doesn’t feel like you’ve lied to him about anything.
Saving your purity (not just of your virginity, but literally everything – your breasts, any touching, etc.) is really REALLY important to your future husband.
And lastly, you want to be the woman he’s GLAD he married. Not the promiscious angel beauty that he’s glad he avoided (sad!).
Hopefully she will take this wisdom to heart, like I did when my own mother told me.
I’ve never been a baker. I LOVE to cook though, and reading cookbooks at night is something I’ve done for fun 🙂 Back when our oldest was little, and I had more time to venture out, we would go to a beautiful bookstore, and he’d play while I thumbed through French Cookbooks – even the memory of that is so blissful!
But baking? It’s just not something that comes natural to me at all, but I force myself to do it anyway 🙂 , and along the way I’ve found some tricks that have made it a lot easier than I thought baking would be.
Every year over the holidays I always get the chance to make something to bring to our family feasts. Since I’m usually the youngest woman there and at the bottom of the family female totem pole 😀 for years I’ve only been allowed to bring the Green Bean Casserole LOL (you know… the meal thats like super easy and if you mess up you’re an idiot – kind of dish)! But along with that, I’ve also been allowed to bring a dessert pie each year. And THIS year, this past Thanksgiving, lo and behold I got the privilege of being in charge of ALL the dessert pies, and wow was it a lot of fun! And a serious privilege I didn’t take lightly.
My older son also loves cooking, and so he’s kind of come with me on this journey of trying to become a baker 🙂 He and I have perfected our own Cherry Pie with lattice work and cut out designs – made from our own homemade pie crust (which is SO delicious you can actually just eat the crust by itself)!
Here some of the things we’ve tried (or similar ones since some I didn’t blog about):
Here’s a great cherry pie recipe (not our’s but very good!)
Pumpkin pie (from Pioneer Woman’s amazing recipe!)
Sweet Potato Pie (a classic of the SOUTH ❤ and one I made a few years ago and blogged about it)
Chocolate Tarte (the most AMAZING chocolate dessert I’ve ever eaten and super easy! Find it here)
White Chocolate Banana Cream Pie (still working on perfecting, but THIS girl’s recipe is what we go off of)
Marshmellow Fluff Pie Topping:
for the marshmallow fluff:
- 2 egg whites, at room temperature
- 1 scant cup light corn syrup
- 1/4 teaspoon salt
- 1 cup sifted powdered sugar
- 1 1/2 teaspoons clear vanilla extract (if you want them stark white; if you don’t mind a little ivory color, use the pure vanilla extract)
Great video on homemade pie crusts:
If I had to pick a favorite one we’ve tried to perfect over the years, it would definitely be the Chocolate Tart recipe. It is just TOO easy, and yet it is beautifully presented visually, and never fails to impress with it’s immaculate taste.
I hope you readers get to eat some pie this year! If you don’t have time to make one, I know restaurants tend to make some really great homemade-style ones. And if you’re in a pinch, I’ve found some brands are VERY good at making pie filling (like for cherry pies) – that along with a homemade crust makes it hard to tell if you made the filling or not.
Enjoy all the eating and drinking!