This is a post I’m truly excited to write. This phrase, Actions Speak Louder Than Words,” is something my mother told me ALL. THE. TIME.
She also would say,
“I’m sorry I can’t hear you – your actions are just too loud!!”
I didn’t realize how rare this was… to have a mom who actually held me accountable to what I said I would do – and who I said I wanted to be character-wise. It’s normal I think for women to lack a sense of insight into what they’re actually doing – compared to what they say they want to do or are doing. It’s a huge disconnect that is so strange to see from the outside.
This is displayed when a woman does something that is obviously even painfully so disrespectful to her husband, and yet she’s submissive and Christian and otherwise looks like the perfect “quality woman.” She often even says that she loves him, respects him, and submits to him, and yet does things that are just beyond disrespectful.
How can her mind be so disconnected from reality?
It’s because she was never held accountable for her actual actions,
yet was taught to say all the right things to cover the deception.
Yes, it’s a type of self-deception, basically being in denial. In severe cases, it can even lead to someone living a double life, and not even truly being aware of how disconnected their life has become.
So be introspective, Sweet Girl. And have many advisers/mentors who you can talk to and bounce ideas off of before you take action. It may seem weird to other people, that you go to others you look up to and trust to see what they think about something, but trust me, it will strengthen you to know you have people backing you and supporting you in your decisions (and to feel like you had enough knowledge to make the right decision at that time).
Know that people will always judge you by your actions (as they should), and not by just the things you say. This is critically important if you want to make an impact in your life for good. You can’t just say the right words, without backing them up with the right actions.
If you want men you may be interested in, to take you seriously, you have to actually show them through your actions that you admire and respect them. Words are completely meaningless to prove that kind of love. You could have an entire blog professing your love to your husband, public to the world, and yet if you do not treat your husband respectfully at home, and in a myriad of other little ways in public, it will prove you a fraud. Don’t put yourself and your family through that kind of pain by not living out your beliefs.
The only way to have integrity and respect in this life, is to back up your words with actions that prove them.
I promise as your mother, to hold you accountable to your words and guide you along in this area as you grow. I have no doubt that you will learn this well, and be able to exemplify it in your own life as you become the woman God wants you to be.