This is the true joy in life,
the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one.
The being thoroughly worn out before you’re thrown on the scrap heap,
The being a force of nature instead of a feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy.
I am of the opinion that my life belongs to the whole community
and as I live it is my privilege – my privilege to do for it whatever I can.
I want to be thoroughly used up when I die,
for the harder I work the more I love.
I rejoice in life for its own sake.
Life is no brief candle to me;
it is a sort of splendid torch which I’ve got a hold of for the moment
and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible
before handing it on to future generations.
-George Bernard Shaw
I watched another Freedomain video recently, and he ended it with this quote, along with the latter below from his own mind:
“Wear yourself out in the pursuit of virtue, and leave only the barest husk to be thrown in the grave.
Just be used up completely.
Be emptied of words, be emptied of power, be emptied of dedication, be emptied of challenge, be emptied of courage – SPEND IT ALL.
Let only your skeleton be what the worms get – nothing else.
Have everything else spent to the last penny, and let that last penny of spending be that which kills you, because you have nothing left to give.
And that I think is the satisfying life.”
When watching this video over the course of a few days, the ending quote hit home with why I started blogging in the first place almost 4 years ago. It really was mostly a creative outlet, but every Wednesday, I’d try to post something on marriage. We’ve seen and known so many horrible or even “just limping along” marriages, that I wanted to impart some basic knowledge to people who didn’t know these things, and yet were searching for it. I think this is normal for people who find out great truths to want to impart that knowledge to someone else. Why on earth would you hide something that can help people with building better marriages, which in turn, creates healthier, happier children, and less divorce, better societies and more productive, good people in this world?!?!
Seriously, if you have that information and are not sharing it somehow, you may want to really ask yourself why you are keeping that valuable help from other people? This isn’t meant as some kind of condemning judgment, and obviously sharing it can be done in a million different ways, I’m not saying everyone has to go start a blog or youtube channel and try to make a difference in those venues – but it’s just pure fact that by not sharing that information (which is like a treasure really) with people in dire need of it, is morally wrong.
It’s easier to see this fact when you apply it to being wealthy and not generous in your giving. If a wealthy person isn’t giving in some way to society – to purely good, helpful causes, not the kind that perpetuate problems in society – then it is just like the rich man in the Bible who stores up grain all for himself:
 Someone in the crowd said to him, “Teacher, tell my brother to divide the inheritance with me.”
 Jesus replied, “Man, who appointed me a judge or an arbiter between you?”  Then he said to them, “Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; a man’s life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions.”
 And he told them this parable: “The ground of a certain rich man produced a good crop.  He thought to himself, ‘What shall I do? I have no place to store my crops.’
 “Then he said, ‘This is what I’ll do. I will tear down my barns and build bigger ones, and there I will store all my grain and my goods.  And I’ll say to myself, “You have plenty of good things laid up for many years. Take life easy; eat, drink and be merry.” ‘
 “But God said to him, ‘You fool! This very night your life will be demanded from you. Then who will get what you have prepared for yourself?’
 “This is how it will be with anyone who stores up things for himself but is not rich toward God.
Being “rich toward God,” is sharing the gospel and biblical truths about how life is meant to be lived. Sharing that often comes in form of writing, books, blogs, but doesn’t have to only be in those ways.
“The lips of the wise broadcast knowledge, but not so the heart of fools.”
The best sharing is face-to-face with people in your real life, but writing and blogs is also extremely beneficial to many people – and is a better way to “broadcast” that knowledge and wisdom. I know this personally because I’ve had the amazing opportunity of being told by those I’ve been blessed to touch!
Looking back, it’s been awe-inspiring to affect so many women’s and men’s lives through simply writing about marriage and sex or parenting. Giving other people Truth so that they can better live their lives the way God would want them to, has been a privilege that I didn’t foresee when starting out writing as a mere creative outlet!
Our own marriage is in large part as good as it is because of other people who took their own time, energy and heart and passion to write great marriage books that I read during our first year when I worked at a Christian bookstore! If they had thought what they had to say wasn’t important, didn’t need to be shared, or were neurotically worried that men reading their books would “compare their wives to the women writing these valuable books,” we would probably not have the marriage we have today. The Truths we learned from these godly authors were SO valuable and important – their books were their ministry. Many people who benefited from their writing would have missed out on those blessings if the authors had decided sharing these Truths were wrong – including the authors themselves! Because sharing with others Truths that are life-giving is a blessing in and of itself!
While studying what these authors had to say on a wife’s role in a marriage during our first year, I was amazed it is so easy to get married when one has literally NO IDEA how to maintain that marriage or live together in a compatible way. Even driving a car takes more time and effort in studying the laws of what is right and wrong to do while in it and out on the road. I mean seriously, you get more instruction and valuable information when getting a driver’s license than you do before you get married – no wonder there are so many divorces or miserable marriages!
Most of it is likely due to lack of knowledge of how or what a good marriage actually looks like from day to day.
So make your life count! Don’t live an “unlived life” full of complaining, slander, and wasting your time doing things that harm you! You are meant for so much more than that ❤
Here is Stefan’s video, and again, it look me days to get through it little bits at a time. And it’s not for children’s ears!! He’s an atheist, so he cusses sometimes, but the overall messages he does are full of wisdom.