I was reminded this weekend the importance of being careful how you speak to people; having someone speak horribly to me, the wounds are still fresh and I’ve been given a sort of clarity about the situation. When you put yourself out there, when you try to do anything worthwhile in this world, you will always receive some amount of criticism or even blind hatred & harsh judgment. We live in a world that frankly doesn’t seem to value humanity – behind computer screens, people may believe they can speak whatever they want to another, regardless of the effects of their words on that person’s spirit.
Words are so powerful, and boy can they hurt. Even the bible states that life and death are in the power of the tongue, and people will reap the consequences of what they say to another – for good and bad. Whatever they are, words are not meaningless characters, they carry meaning and have the power to slash someone to ribbons. It was a beautiful reminder for me to continue in lifting others up, encouraging people, and loving people – even people who actively hate me and all that I represent.
It made me think about the importance of speaking kindness and love into our children. If a child isn’t regarded with respect, love, and given grace and understanding when they’re growing up, they might have a hard time understanding these things when older, and choose to berate and assault anyone who disagrees with them.
Even in those rare occurrences where a parent may lose control with their child and spew something horrible they didn’t mean, it is so important to go back to your child and amend things! It really doesn’t matter what circumstances led to the loss of control, you must seek to “dress the wound before infection sets in,” (Dr. James Dobson).
Speak love into others… speak with lips of kindness.
The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat,
known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths.
These people have an appreciation, a sensitivity,
and an understanding of life that fills them with
compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern.
I am a nerd… a geek… hopefully not completely a “dork” – call it what you will, but I truly do embrace my inner geek-goddess. I completely mesh with my husband concerning a variety of books and movies, even tv-series. Whatever it is that leads me to adore Harry Potter (if you didn’t read the books – yes, all of them – you’re sorely missing out!), Star Wars, and Lord of the Rings, I’m thankful to be born like this.
Growing up, my brother and I would have episodes of these movie marathons, usually Star Wars or Lord of the Rings. We would watch them for days, relishing each part, repeating epic lines! Geek goddess? You have no idea….
I love the deep lessons hidden in these works of art, all kinds of life lessons, if you’re attune to them. One of my hands down favorite lines is from Lord of the Rings when Gandalf is explaining to Frodo how to accept crisis – how to deal with things that happen in life that are devastating & unwanted. He also explains possibly one of the greatest pieces of advice I’ve ever heard on why we shouldn’t judge others.
Frodo: It’s pity Bilbo didn’t kill him when he had a chance! Gandalf: Pity? It was pity that stayed Bilbo’s hand. Many that live deserve death. And some that died deserve life. Can you give it to them Frodo? Do not be too eager to deal out death in judgment. Even the very wise cannot see all ends. My heart tells me that Gollum has some part to play yet, for good or ill, before this is over. The pity of Bilbo may rule the fate of many.”
Frodo: I wish the ring had never come to me. I wish none of this had happened. Gandalf: So do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us. There are other forces at work in this world Frodo, besides the will of evil. Bilbo was meant to find the Ring. In which case, you were also meant to have it. And that is an encouraging thought.