Lips of Kindness

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I was reminded this weekend the importance of being careful how you speak to people; having someone speak horribly to me, the wounds are still fresh and I’ve been given a sort of clarity about the situation.  When you put yourself out there, when you try to do anything worthwhile in this world, you will always receive some amount of criticism or even blind hatred & harsh judgment.  We live in a world that frankly doesn’t seem to value humanity – behind computer screens, people may believe they can speak whatever they want to another, regardless of the effects of their words on that person’s spirit.

Words are so powerful, and boy can they hurt.  Even the bible states that life and death are in the power of the tongue, and people will reap the consequences of what they say to another – for good and bad.  Whatever they are, words are not meaningless characters, they carry meaning and have the power to slash someone to ribbons. It was a beautiful reminder for me to continue in lifting others up, encouraging people, and loving people – even people who actively hate me and all that I represent.  

It made me think about the importance of speaking kindness and love into our children.  If a child isn’t regarded with respect, love, and given grace and understanding when they’re growing up, they might have a hard time understanding these things when older, and choose to berate and assault anyone who disagrees with them.

Even in those rare occurrences where a parent may lose control with their child and spew something horrible they didn’t mean, it is so important to go back to your child and amend things!  It really doesn’t matter what circumstances led to the loss of control, you must seek to “dress the wound before infection sets in,” (Dr. James Dobson).

Speak love into others… speak with lips of kindness.

The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat,

known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths.

These people have an appreciation, a sensitivity,

and an understanding of life that fills them with

compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern.

Beautiful people do not just happen.

~ Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

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Southern & Smoked Fried Chicken

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My hometown in 1890

If you live in the South, it’s pretty much a given that you appreciate fried food – I know I do… and like any good Southern girl, I love fried chicken.  This past weekend I decided to try my hand at this homemade recipe.  It is so much easier than you’d imagine!  Just make sure you use something with a lid (think dutch oven or deep fryer…)  do not, know matter how great of a cook you think you are, try to use anything more shallow, you might just burn your pretty little face off!  Being the health-nut I am, I used a healthier oil not realizing the smoking heat was a lot lower… sooo the entire house was slowly filled with smoke!  It was still delicious & we enjoyed a nice evening on the patio eating it outside. The End.

fried chicken

(Black & White photo of Boerne, Texas, 1890 from Traces of Texas)