Is Makeup Unethical When You’re Dating?

makeappAre we women tricking men with our makeup usage?  This is a lot like the constant harpy criticism that we’re all just teaching women to manipulate men… UN-ethically at that!  Oh my!!!  Recently, as you may have seen, an app came out called the Makeapp that allows men (or anyone really) to take a picture or upload a picture of a woman, and completely simulate what she probably looks like without makeup…. (CONTINUE READING)


Character Flaws Make a Woman Ugly to Men

I love Lori Alexander.  I love her brutal honesty and how she just tells it like it is to younger women.  Yes, men will notice a beautiful woman when one comes by, it’s natural and designed by God in their masculine nature to be attracted to a variety of different kinds of beautiful women.  I think most women have to deal with little insecurities, especially at the beginning of a relationship or even the beginning of a marriage when they’re still finding out how deep their husband’s love goes for them…. (CONTINUE READING)


Email Question: Is Online Dating a Good Option for Women?

I thought this was a great question!  I didn’t meet my husband this way, so take my advice with a grain of salt, but from what I’ve heard from other women is that yes, it really really works for y’all.  Online dating is MUCH (like 100 times harder) for men actually.

But for you younger or older women out there, yea it seems like it tends to work out…. (CONTINUE READING)


Should You Wait for a Man?

So my boyfriend is 21 years older than me. I just turned 27 and he is 48.

I’ve heard all my life how mature I am and I got bored with my generation before I even turned 21. I am also a single mom, which plays its part. I love on my own and take care of myself. We’ve been together about 2 years with two breaks in between. He was married for 17 years, has two children he helped raise from that union and his biological son is 25, yes a two year difference. He has raised a family, purchased homes, traveled the world, he’s done it all.  His initial interest in me was probably physical and sexual but now it’s grown to much more….. (CONTINUE READING)


Email Question: How Much Should I Chase a Guy?

This was a question I got back in 2013 or 2014 via email.  How much should a woman in college (or even in her 30’s) chase a guy that she likes?  I’ve had other email conversations about topics somewhat like this as well, such as “my boyfriend doesn’t seem to be very interested in getting married (at all) anytime soon…” or “my fiance doesn’t want to set a date, hardly ever makes an effort to see me, and just moved across the country for a great job opportunity – what do I do?”… (CONTINUE READING)


What Men Find Irresistible by Laura Doyle

11 Hacks that Make Men Go Gaga with Passion and Desire

If you’ve ever spent an evening with your man or a date and ended up being his life coach, you already know that doesn’t make you irresistible.

Quite the opposite, actually.

All that good advice you gave him did not lead to more dates, or make him pull you in with both arms and shower you with kisses, or look deep into your eyes and say that he loved you more than anyone has ever loved anyone…. (CONTINUE READING)


What to Do When Your Boyfriend Isn’t Ready to Get Engaged?

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 3 years. I’m in my late 20’s and he’s in his early 30’s. My boyfriend’s company recently offered him a position in one of their locations in India. The position comes with a rather large increase in salary and a new title. It’s a great opportunity for him but it’s in a different country and he doesn’t know how long they will want him there for. It will be at least a year but it could very well be longer.

He’s asked me to move there with him. I’m lucky that I can work remotely from anywhere so that isn’t a huge problem. It’ll be a hassle but it can work. But moving there will mean living in a place where I won’t know a single person, I don’t know the language or customs or anything. I don’t know what I will do with my house here or my car or anything. i feel like I would be giving up a lot. I’m ready to get married and start a family. At my age, I think this is perfectly reasonable.

However, I do want to be with him and I am considering it. But my problem is, I want us to at least be engaged before I make such a big change for him and for us…

but he isn’t ready to get engaged. He says that he doesn’t feel like we’re there yet in our relationship.  What should I do? Is this the end of our relationship?”  (CONTINUE READING)


Single Women – Men Love Seeing You BE a Woman

Why do men love to see a woman being a “Domestic Goddess?”

Men love to feel like a man. I know in our culture rampant with male-bashing, jokes about men being or acting stupid, or even music videos humiliating men in their breakups with girlfriends,even my daring to say that men love to feel like a man is huge deal.

But it’s true.  And when a woman is acting and enjoying being a woman, she allows him to feel more manly – something a healthy man loves to feel and desires to feel when around a female.  God created men to love being masculine – this doesn’t mean that they can’t have a host of hobbies that may not be “oh so manly” – many men love the arts (cooking, singing, music, acting, painting, dancing, etc.) and are gifted in them, and yet loving a certain hobby doesn’t mean they have to forgo their masculinity.  God still created men to be, and think, and feel like men… (CONTINUE READING)


Single Women – Men Don’t Like Messy Girls!

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Single women… men notice your counter tops!

Not those counter tops – not even your kitchen counter tops, although those matter, too.  I’m talking about your counter space in your restroom, and the storage of your feminine beauty items.  A woman’s restroom and how clean she keeps it is actually more important than you think.

Growing up my mother always tried to instill in me to keep my bathroom area – mainly the counter top space – clean and organized, free of clutter, but it always seemed like a chore and slightly unnecessary.  Especially when one is single – who sees your counter top in your bathroom?… (CONTINUE READING)

Single Man Gets Berated for Having Standards


I witnessed today on my FB newsfeed, a single man get berated by a female “friend” for daring to have standards for how he expects to be treated by a woman (his potential future wife) in the singles’ dating market.  For the sake of the post, I call him Matt and the shaming, criticizing woman will be called Megan.

Matt had used’s online connection to chat with a 40 year-old single mom, who was very upfront about not wanting anymore children, and very demanding on finding out if hewanted children or not.  He answered candidly & honestly… (CONTINUE READING)


Single Women: Go for the Mature Guy

My husband just turned 30 a few months ago, and he teased me mercilessly about me only having 2 years left to really milk the “I’m having sex with a man in his 30’s while I”m in my 20’s,” silliness.  We tease each other constantly – he teases me constantly, and it adds to our marriage so much happiness!

I grew up understanding that men only get sexier and more desirable as they get older, whereas women tend to peak in their early to mid-20’s and then slowly (or not so slowly depending on how well they take care of their bodies) start to decline in sexual value… (CONTINUE READING)


Single Women: Win Men’s Attention


If you want to catch a guy – a great guy, a handsome guy, a polished, high-value man… first,you need to get his attention.

How does a girl go about this?  What is seen as obviously trying to get too much attention, versus getting enough so that a girl can get noticed by the right man she is trying to attract?  It is a very tricky thing for a girl… she might have a great character, be loving and kind, be generous and virtuous, but all these things won’t go noticed unless she, herself, IS noticed… (CONTINUE READING)


Single Women: Probably the Most Important Thing You Can Do Is Become Emotionally Mature


Men do not appreciate women who are immature emotionally, most men put a lot of effort into thinking their decisions through rationally, and therefore desire a romantic partner who also has a grounded way of thinking.  They do not appreciate women who anger easily, take things too personally (overly sensitive), spend money thoughtlessly, take care of their life and home carelessly, and so on.

Men want women who are emotionally mature.

A large part of this is being open to realizing when you have immature motivations when interacting with a guy – are you seeking to control him on some level?…. (CONTINUE READING)


Single Girls… What to Do in Your 20’s

In my own life experience, being a freshman at college opened up so many doors… I had many guys flirting with me constantly, calling me on the phone, meeting up with me just to talk or hang out around campus, or to simply be near me.  I understood that any one of them wanted a relationship and a lot of them asked, but I held onto that card for someone that I knew was serious.  My “plan” was to not get into a serious relationship at all my freshman year, I knew I was too young and naive to probably do well, but when one guy came at me with an entirely new angle, I caved.  He was Christian and he wanted to “court” me… (CONTINUE READING)

________________________________Single Women – You Have The Power in Attracting a Man – Unleash It!


You want to get married… even in this crazy day and age where marriage is quite down right risky business, deep down, ever since you were a little girl, you probably envisioned that, someday, you would be married, have a beautiful house, a job, maybe be a mom, have a family of kids all your own.  But now that you’re grown up, marriage seems far away, maybe even out reach for whatever reason.

Single women, let me let you in on a little secret, you have all the power in being able to attract a good man of character – a quality man.  Oh yes, you do.  You have the control here, you just may not know the way to unleash this power that every woman has… (CONTINUE READING)


Single Men – STOP Playing the Hero

supermanMy husband and I were out with our family about a year ago, eating lunch at one of those fast food restaurants that have a playground inside.  My son was happily playing (places like that are like Disney World for him), and when the food arrived, my husband told him it was time to eat & to come sit down.  While we were there eating and talking to each other when suddenly there was a yell from inside the playground area (high up where slide was).  My son… jumped out of his seat... ran as fast as he could to the opening of the playground at the bottom, climbed up faster than I’d ever seen his body move, and all in pursuit to save this little girl who had yelled…. (CONTINUE READING)


Single Women – Men Secretly Wish It Was Harder to Get Into Your Pants


“If I’m looking for an LTR, and the girl puts out easily, I’ll accept her putting out, but I’ll disqualify her for an LTR. Now women have told me, “just tell her not to put out then!” But that defeats the whole purpose, if you have to tell her not to be a slut in order to get you, than her not being a slut isn’t genuine and the girl I want to commit to is a genuine non-slut, not someone just acting out the behavour of one.” … (READ FULL ARTICLE)


Single Women – Don’t Waste Your 20’s in Casual Sex & Hookups


I’ve avoided writing about the problem topic of the way my generation views casual sex for a long time now because the honesty of it is just so difficult.  It’s time.

I’ve breached this topic before with single girls who were friends of mine in the past, and the painful truths I would try to share with them when I could tell they were being used or in a disadvantaged position, were usually so against what they wanted to hear from me (at that time in their lives), that it could turn a casual conversation into an emotional outburst of denial and anger… (CONTINUE READING)


Single Women: Makeup Or No Makeup, Feel Beautiful in Your Own Skin

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From The Private Man Blog: Single Women Look For This in a Man

“A fair number of women read my blog and for this, I am pleased. Normally, I write my posts with a male audience in mind. This post is an exception. I want women to read this very carefully and pass it along to their single friends. It’s important.

The biggest challenge is for women to re-adjust their approach to men. Women usually look for reasons to reject a man. They find the bad things first. This results in a lot of frustrated single… (CONTINUE READING)


Single Guys, Don’t Put Up with Girlitude

Some women (maybe all women :/ ) seem to have a little problem with attitude, sometimes we act like princesses that should be carried around like delicate porcelain dolls.  This is not good.  Women, when they really understand themselves, don’t want that – they want to have fun with their guy, not be put on a pedestal of idolization and have goddess-like worship shown to them.  They want an equal, not a man that acts like her footmen when he should be acting like a Knight…. (CONTINUE READING)


Single Women: Have Character

A repair man named Daniel came over yesterday to fix our sink and electrical mysteries at our house.  Just a few weeks ago, he had brought us a new stove as our old one had gone out finally… that and our landlord really likes us.  It’s great having a repair guy you trust and can have a lengthy conversation with, I always come away feeling like I’ve learned or been reminded of another important life lesson.

Daniel is in his 50′s and is recently divorced from his wife of 21 years.  The day after Christmas (after he spent around $4,000 on new kitchen appliances for her gifts), she told him she was leaving… (CONTINUE READING)



She’s Out of Your League… I Don’t Think So

I feel a little like I’m betraying my sex… but I want to let you single (and married) men understand why and how a woman acts the way she does when you are trying to pursue her.  There are so many people out there telling you men to behave a certain feminized way, when honestly for centuries, it hasn’t worked.  Let’s look at these questions: Why can’t you just be upfront and show her how much you like her?  Why does she fall for men that are typically “bad” rather than safe and good for her?  And more importantly… how can you get someone that’s out of your league (in your mind) to fall for you? … (CONTINUE READING)


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Single Women… Be Radiant & Happy

Being single is underrated in our society.  Not enough appreciation goes to how much a single woman (or man) can accomplish during these years, and is instead replaced by the pressures to get into a relationship – any relationship – as to avoid the feelings that come with being alone.  If you’re a single woman, today I’m writing for you (sorry single men, I’ll get to you next week 😉 )… (CONTINUE READING)


So… You Like the Shy Guy?

So... You like the Shy Guy

I’m a firm believer that the guy should make the first move.  I’ll be the first one to tell you that if you’re a single woman, you should wait for his call (or text), etc.  But I think there may be an exception to this widely taught rule….  What if you like the shy or quiet guy?  What if you like a guy who can’t tell (or has a hard time believing) when women like him?  I think the rules change… (CONTINUE READING)


Single: Women Don’t Want Nice Men


My younger brother (23), besides providing me endless entertainment, is currently single.  His stories and experiences I’ve been forbidden to write about, however, his relationship status has recently sparked a new interest for me: how to help the single man win and understand women.

There are many things that can be said, but I think the first and foremost fact that all single men need to understand is that women don’t want just another “nice guy.”  Let me be clear, “nice” and “kind” are too different things.  Niceness implies that there is no disagreeable characteristics.  He’s tame, lame, or boring… (CONTINUE READING)


Single: Look Past His Shell

If you are looking for a man (secretly, because it is a turn-off to be actively seeking, of course), you must be able to look past the outer shell of a man.  Men of any age and any background generally hold  their true worth deep down, guarded against the outside world that can be cruel and abrasive to their inner heart.

You must be able to look past this shell of toughness, humor, or intellectualism to see who the man really is – to look into his heart.  If you do, you will most likely find… (CONTINUE READING)


How to Turn a Guy Down

When I was 14, I decided to become a volleyball player – I was never very good, but it was fun and exhilarating.  My parents let me go to a special training camp over the summer, to work with some great coaches and play alongside some of the best in the city – they were really good… really athletic… one girl even dyed her hair blue and made it a point to drink a whole gallon of water a day – ok maybe that wasn’t volleyball-related, but it was interesting for our age… (CONTINUE READING)


Single: What You Need to Know

Maybe you are happy and single.  Maybe you just got out of a relationship, or maybe you are newly single again after being with someone for a long time.  I want to put up some ideas that singles can think about, if they ever intend to get married or remarried.

With so many marriages ending in divorce, I understand singles who are disdainful or afraid of entering into a situation that seems doomed from the beginning.  No one walks down the aisle of their own wedding thinking of divorce, however, so somewhere in between saying “I do,” and divorce papers, something goes wrong… (CONTINUE READING)

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