My husband snapped this picture in the morning before he left for a special assignment… said it was too cute to miss. Recently, our beautiful girl has decided waking up VERY early is just the thing to do 😉 and I’ve been letting her stay up with me so I can continue with some time to read the Bible and pray.
What I would have considered an interruption has become such a beautiful blessing of extra time to cuddle with her and enjoy alone time with her. I usually get her some chocolate milk, and coffee for myself, and sit back down where she stays quietly reading one of her books or her little Christmas story Bible (sooo cute!!!) and gives me another 30 minutes to an hour to read and pray. Our boys were a little too rough and rowdy to have done this (and I tried LOL) so having a sweet, gentle girl is a nice change 😀 ! I love how different they are.
In the book, The Mission of Motherhood, this quote recently stood out,
“How do we make the commitment to give the area of motherhood over to God as a sacrifice of worship to him?
We yield our personal rights into his hands. We give up our time and expectations to him – and also our fears and worries about how we will manage. We trust him to take care of us and our family. We let him redirect our thinking and expectations and adjust our dreams. And we wait in faith to see the fruit of our hard labor in the lives of our children, knowing that he will be faithful to honor our commitment to him.”
I consider that early morning time – a time of peace and a rare stillness that falls over the house when everyone else is asleep – my time to replenish and really focus on God and His Word. I can see how it could be called my “Me-Time,” or be something a friend would say I have a “right” to. And I get it – having that time not go as I planned due to a fussy baby means mentally or emotionally giving up this “right.”
We’re all about “rights” as women in this day and age. Whether it’s the “right” to some alone time, the “right” to some pampering, or even the “right” to complain (yes, I’ve heard this!), it seems we live a chronic state of feeling we deserve certain circumstances or treatment. Since mothers usually do spend a lot of time serving, I think we have this expectation that we should receive a form of “payment” in return for all our efforts. But that’s just it – a real sacrificial love doesn’t demand (or even expect) payment or retribution for things lost like time and energy. Is alone time or being pampered inherently bad? Of course not 🙂 but it can be if we view them as though they’re owed to us because we “sacrifice so much.”
Loving our children in such a way that we try to re-frame these interruptions, or messes… or accidents… into opportunities for blessings or “divine appointments,” as Clarkson calls them, is such a dramatic difference in perspective. I admit this is something I have to routinely call myself back to in keeping in focus.
“Greater love has no one than this,
that one lay down his life for his friends.”
Clarkson goes on to describe God’s design for motherhood as comparable to what Jesus described in John 15:13. Mother’s in many ways, are called to figuratively “lay down their lives” for their children.
This means that even when we don’t feel like it, we choose to “serve” them by getting up with them or helping them get back to sleep. ❤
It means that even when it’s the millionth time that week that we’re cleaning the kitchen floors because babies and toddlers eat so messy, that we choose to do it anyway. ❤
It may mean SO many different changes and sacrifices made toward goals, careers, dreams, or life plans in ensuring they’re getting what they all need from us.
Something I’ve been thinking about, and something that has been brought to the forefront as we’ve had more children, is the “cost” of motherhood. How deep is that cost I don’t know. I’m sure it differs for each family, and certainly when considering how many children a mother has, but it is a topic very interesting to me when thinking about how much a woman gives up (yet also gains) when living out the role of a mother?
If anyone has any ideas on this topic I’d love to hear them!