Support Your Husband in His Mission

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This is just a glimpse of the story of the man, William Wilberforce, who fought against slavery in England – a fight that took his entire political career, and much of his health and wellness.

He was such a brave man – to go against so many who were for slavery when it was such an acceptable, totally normal evil that had been absorbed into their society.  And to stand the silence of those who in their hearts were against it, but would never dare speak publicly against it.  Knowing it would be the cross of his life to bear, he did it anyway.

The image above is from the sweet movie “Amazing Grace 2006.”  It’s a good synopsis of his political and personal life, with a focus on the kind of wife he had when he endured being an abolitionist.

The movie takes you through the passion of his youth,

the fever to want to change the world,

the anger that so many kept silent,

the rejection,

the humiliation,

the isolation,

the dejection,

the depression,

the anxiety,

the recurring bouts of serious illness,

the feeling chosen for this task,

the believing he was failing… even failing God in fulfilling his task.

Wilberforce had a passion for his mission that caused him to fight for 20 years before seeing it ever come to fruition!  He saw the abolitionist movement birth, then grow brighter like a flame… but then in the face of his country at war, he watched it’s supporters fall away, hide themselves in the hills, and refuse to support him publicly in the face of being labeled seditious.  Close friends like William Pitt, the man who became Prime Minister at the age of 24, who encouraged him to consider his participation in the Abolitionist movement as a work of God, weren’t able to openly support him any longer.

Isolation fell way to dejection, which overtime, fell way to despair.  His illness, caused by the immense stress of his mission, took over his mind and his body.

His friends and the people of his upper class were concerned that he was killing himself over his passion and mission.  They also didn’t understand his fervor for God – as evangelicals were ridiculed and criticized harshly in those times, and distrusted as “radicals,” by his Tory party.  The movie portrays his activities fairly accurately, based upon his diary entries.

He had so much opposition, that the great and renowned John Wesley, at the age of 87, wrote to him and said, “Unless God has raised you up for this very thing, you will be worn out by the opposition of man and devils. But if God be for you, who can be against you. . . .” [40].

Enter his future wife, Barbara Spooner, a beautiful, young, 20 year old (William was 37), who helped reignite his fire to change things.  To remind him of his worth.  To help him fight again, the good fight he almost gave up.  They had the same moral standings, Evangelical faith (when most were still of the Church of England), and vision for society, and she undoubtedly appreciated what he had already accomplished in his political career.

He fell in love with her, and proposed only 8 days after meeting her.

They married after a short, 1-month courtship, and then had 6 children in 10 years!  It is said that William relished being a father and having the joy of a family.  If anything, having his wife and children gave him more energy and passion to continue on in his mission – because it renewed his purpose to make the world (as much as he could) a better place.

In the 2006 movie, his wife’s role of drawing him out of depression and despair, nursing him while he was sick, and inspiring him to live without powerful (and dangerous) opiates, is one of the most beautiful facets of the entire movie!  Each time I’ve watched it, I’ve been so encouraged to renew my efforts in helping my own husband attain his goals and aspirations.

She believed in him when he needed it the most.  When no one seemed to be able to encourage him to continue, her faith in him somehow did.  It’s a remarkable thing to me, the power that a wife can have in helping her husband through rough patches in life.

I know I don’t often talk about my own personal struggle as a police wife, in part because it’s just such a public life and anything I say reflects back onto him – for good or for worse.  These past years have been very hard for everyone in policing – their children, their families, but especially the officers themselves.  Many have quit or chosen to retire early.  And who can blame them?

There were times when it was extremely difficult to see my husband serve what I thought, was such an undeserving society, and then I would be humbled by seeing how so many would pour out their love and support in letters to their police.  I had to take pictures of the many letters I ended up collecting one year for the officers at my husband’s sub, so that I could reread them when I was tempted to feel like he was fighting alone.

I know I’m selfish, but it’s hard to want to give my husband to people who don’t know him like I do, who don’t understand the incredible man they have, so selflessly serving them day in and day out.

Back when all the repeated officer deaths and shootings were taking place more frequently, I had a crisis-like moment where I had to make a choice to continue supporting him anyway (knowing he could be murdered), or to try to get him to do something else much safer.  Obviously my feelings and my “heart” wanted to stop supporting him in his mission and purpose.  It was very painful to watch him go through the emotions and difficulty he went through during those years, when officers were painted in the worst light possible, and then murdered for crimes they never committed.  It was hard to try to still believe that it was a cause worth fighting for.  It’s painful to support someone and love them so much, all while understanding that their purpose involved their possible death!

But his purpose was more than us, and more than even our kids having the certainty of a father!  Accepting this was difficult to say the least.  

Through lots of time with God and periodically asking mentors for prayers for peace during that time, I came to a place of accepting his calling as being something truly sacred.  He was, to put it bluntly, willing to die for the love of serving our city, because what he was doing – fulfilling a Romans 13 calling – represented more to him than even his own life.

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What is your husband passionate about?  Is there anything he lights up when talking about?  Are you trying to support and encourage him, to listen and enjoy his thoughts on the subject?  If you don’t know what it is that your husband cares deeply about, why don’t you find out?

Maybe the things he used to feel passionate about, he’s lost hope in ever seeing come to fruition, like Wilberforce almost did.  Maybe his dreams and aspirations have withered away and have left him feeling empty inside.  I think it’s normal for a man who isn’t supported in this amazing way that a wife is able to do, to fall into depression or even apathy.  Life is so difficult, but I believe it’s even harder for people who have strong convictions and a sense of purpose – they’re more prone (I think) to depression and feeling like a failure.  We have so much power as women, to give inspiration and motivation to our men, but most of us don’t recognize this amazing power.

I believe God put that desire in every man, to long for a purpose and mission in this life, even if it seems minor to an outsider, or not as glamorous as someone famous from history – it is still important to your husband, so it should also be important to you.

***

 

When Women Come Between Man & His Mission-

Can a wife ever be her husband’s mission?  I know this probably sounds laughable 🙂 but trust me, I’ve seen many people write in such a way that you would believe that a wife IS supposed to be her husband’s sole purpose and mission to make happy in life.

No.  A woman can never be a man’s mission.  But it is surprising how often we see that in real life and in books or movies, and much to that man’s detriment.  Instead, it’s normal to see throughout history, examples where instead of like Wilberforce’s wife where she is able to support and ignite his passion again for his mission, we see women who derail, ridicule, or even despise her husband’s mission in life.

I worked with a man who had a wife like this.  Even though he was accomplished, smart, making good money and doing research that was his passion and mission in life, his wife would actually ridicule it at home and despised his purpose doing it.  She even refused to come to a public ceremony where he won an award for his research!  Again, history is rampant with wives like this though, so it’s not an uncommon thing to find women who have no appreciation for their husband’s passions and desires in life.

So be a woman who seeks to understand her husband in the deepest way possible.  And try to be diligent about not standing between him and his purpose in life, instead try to make it easier on him by showing him that you support him ❤ .

Here is a poem written back in 1649 by Richard Lovelace, about a man leaving his love because of his duty and honor to fulfill his mission in fighting a war he believed in.  Richard himself actually fought in the English Civil War on behalf of the King, so his poem springs from those experiences and emotions based in his reality.

To Lucasta, going to the Wars

Tell me not (Sweet) I am unkind,
That from the nunnery
Of thy chaste breast and quiet mind
To war and arms I fly.

True, a new mistress now I chase,
The first foe in the field;
And with a stronger faith embrace
A sword, a horse, a shield.

Yet this inconstancy is such
As you too shall adore;
I could not love thee (Dear) so much,
Lov’d I not Honour more.

Stephanie

 

Related Reading –

William Wilberforce

Peculiar Doctrines, Public Morals, and Political Welfare

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29 thoughts on “Support Your Husband in His Mission

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  2. “No. A woman can never be a man’s mission. But it is surprising how often we see that in real life and in books or movies, and much to that man’s detriment”

    Very true. Hollywood is the worst culprit in this regard, continually encouraging men to do just that. One example was the movie “Good Will Hunting.” The protagonist lands an Uber job with the government, growing as a man in the process. But in the final scene, he chucks the job to the side, gets in a car, and drives to California for a girl.

    It’s the form of false dynamics that slowly erode the greatness of a nation…by weakening the men and women collectively.

  3. “Even though he was accomplished, smart, making good money and doing research that was his passion and mission in life, his wife would actually ridicule it at home and despised his purpose doing it. She even refused to come to a public ceremony where he won an award for his research!”

    That strikes me as really evil. Do you have any idea *why* she resented the research so much?…for example, did she think he could have been making more $$$ doing something else? Or did she think the research was detracting from his time with the kids, or time helping her with housework, or whatever?

  4. Yes I do… he had married her while they were still in college and he was a pre-med student obviously hoping to get into med-school. But he took that test several times and just couldn’t make a high enough score.

    So… in my opinion… she thought she was marrying a would-be doctor, and then GREATLY resented him being happy and ok with just being a Research Scientist (which is a really cool awesome job in my opinion). But they do make probably 100,000 LESS than what she thought they’d be able to make.

  5. Of course, those ‘just a research scientist’ people had at least as much to do, and probably more, with reducing death & suffering from diseases as did the medical profession per se. But I guess she just wants cash on the barrel head.

    Maybe it’s a status thing as well….a study of Romance novels indicated that ‘Doctor’ holds the #1 position among professions of the male protagonists of these novels:

    https://chicagoboyz.net/archives/42398.html

    …perhaps she was locked in to that archetype

  6. Great post. It’s really sad that a large number of wives feel their husbands passions don’t meet some kind of litmus test that must be approved before they feel its worthy of support instead of ridicule.

  7. Thanks Snapper, unfortunately I think it’s almost female nature to be really mercenary :/ it’s something women have to suppress if they are going to be married to a man who follows his callings or convictions rather than money.

  8. A couple of weeks ago we were watching something that showed a UK pastor being very convicted to do something (that I can’t remember exactly right now, so sorry!) but his wife wouldn’t follow him and really didn’t want him to follow his convictions! This was in the Victorian age!!! Where “submission” was still I think, fairly a “normal” accepted thing.

    Sometimes I wonder if Eve would have eaten the apple anyway, even IF Adam told her “no, we’re not doing this.”

  9. It seems as though a lot of women can’t support their husbands minor passions. How many times have we seen the joke about the woman who can’t stand or won’t permit her husband time to work on a hobby because its “dumb” or “childish”. If many women can’t stand to let their husbands involve themselves in such minor passions how are they expected to stand beside their husbands in life changing passions like spreading the gospel. I’m reminded of the guy in India who found a way to make cheap but sufficient sanitary napkins for the poor. He literally put everything he had into the invention: Time, effort, money. Not into rebuilding a classic car, mind you, not into weekend hunting or a hobby with his buddies but into something important and much needed. His wife ditched him because SHE didn’t think he would amount to anything and she was tired of him spending so much time working on his goal. The kicker? He succeeded and eventually worked his way into some money and fame, and his wife came crawling back asking for forgiveness and for him to take her back!

  10. Just out of curiosity, can you write this again with an egalitarian POV instead of one where a husband’s life’s work being thoroughly more important than the wifes?

    As in, how much time and effort does your husband put into helping you reach your full potential?

  11. I think you are greatly misunderstanding the amount of distraction that goes into doing research (long hours in a lab, longer hours in an office; as grueling as a 24 hour shift as a famous surgeon, but entirely self-imposed). Depending on what field he’s working in, he could easily be making more money than a doctor, without the student loans to worry about.

    I think it’s kind of gross to label the wife as a money-hungry bitch (your opinion) when you don’t know exactly what went wrong with the marriage.

  12. There’s a novel, and a TV series based on it, called ‘North and South’ which isn’t about the American Civil War but rather about the north and south of England. A minister living in an idyllic setting in the south, circa 1850, has a crisis of conscience about the new statement of faith required of all Church of England ministers…he resigns his position and has to move his family to a fairly impoverished existence in the industrial north. His wife doesn’t really understand why he did it…after all, it was ‘just words’, not something tangible like the Wilberforce slavery issue…but goes along unhappily…one of the two daughters is much more expressive about her unhappiness, while the other attempts to be more helpful. Very much worth reading or seeing.

  13. David!!!! Liz just suggested that series to me a few months ago and I loved it so much we bought it!!! Soooo romantic!!!!!!!!!

    But this pastor was from Ireland during the potato famine. I’ll have to figure it out lol… Oh well!

  14. Oh he had student loans, and he made sure he didn’t work long hours, he kind of lost his motivation to be a good worker. Which I’m sure is normal with men with wives like that.

    And yes, she was awful!!! Definitely a “money-hungry bitch,” in your words LOL!

  15. Catherine, are you sure your accusation of our hostess’ mischaracterizing the wife wasn’t about yourself?
    From Catherine’s About Me page on her blog:

    The biggest challenge in my life (literally) is my boyfriend since Sept. 2013 who is 19 years older than me, a foot and a half taller than me, and about twice my weight. He’s also the biggest baby I’ve ever met (said with love, haha). Nah…we’re like 2 peas in a pod…except when he’s sick and whining because he has a fever of 99 and I want to strangle him because he wakes me up to make him chicken noodle soup because he slept through dinner. He’s an ex-truck driver, current tow truck driver and has the aggravating characteristics of both (namely his diet and sleep schedule).”

  16. Catherine Stephanie is a Christian not a feminist.

    She is also well on her way to reaching her full potential as a wife and mother.

    Unlike those women who seek fulfillment by ditching their obligations to their husbands and children.

  17. Thank you, Dabir. I think I should probably respond to this from Catherine (just to be clear about how I view my marriage):

    “Just out of curiosity, can you write this again with an egalitarian POV instead of one where a husband’s life’s work being thoroughly more important than the wifes?

    As in, how much time and effort does your husband put into helping you reach your full potential”
    ***

    ^^So in response… I just don’t view our marriage as us both competing to have different missions in life, as if we were working against each other to both make a difference in the world. It is like a foreign language to me to think of it that way.

    He does SO MUCH for me that it’s insane to try to quantify it in just a comment box response. Plus, it’s hard to put into words the incredibly deep way we see our life as working “together” – as a real team. There is distinction between our roles, yes, but overall, we’re both working for the same thing – just in different ways. My “mission” in life right now is to raise our children to have very strong beliefs, deep roots, and a firm grasp of truth in this world. Running a household when you have multiple children, takes SO MUCH TIME 😀 There is not time right now for me to really have a “fulfilling” or “high-flying” career. There just isn’t! Cooking all our meals myself, making sure the household is in order and laundry and dishes and everything is getting clean enough (lol) and sanitary and organized, plus trying to teach them biblical principles during the evenings… constantly talking with my older son about real life issues that he’s interested in and curious about – it just all take so much time and energy. I really had no idea how much time and energy children need, but I LOVE sacrificing any thought of a “high-flying” career right now – because it’s just so obvious how much they all need me to be home doing all this stuff. I don’t want to put them in daycare and have someone else raise them and miss out on all the teachable lessons I could give them if it was me raising them myself as opposed to daycare teachers (who also have a high turnover usually… which is bad for children’s brain development!!). They need a consistent, loving and nurturing caregiver, and it’s just best if it’s one of their parents.

    My husband and I have the same goals. Building a family with lots of children, leaving them as our legacy here on earth, hopefully having grandkids and greatgrandkids… leaving them with strong faiths that they use to change the world in small but great ways. My husband has a calling, an actual calling that is written about in the Bible (Romans 13:1-4), and we believe that a wife is supposed to be her husband’s supporter – not competitor! And because of everything I’ve written above (how much time it takes to run a household and raise children) it just makes sense that those things would become my “mission” in life right now. And he supports me SO WELL in being able to do that ❤

    So again, he supports me in my mission to manage our household and everything that goes on in it well, as well as raising and having our kids, and I support him in his mission and calling in life; but our collective "mission" as a husband and wife together, is also fulfilled in all of this. It's beautiful seeing it work out through the years and we regularly tell each other how happy we are with the way it's going.

  18. My husband always says that a man’s wife will make or break his ministry. It’s so true–I’ve seen it over and over again. Yes, we have the same goal in our home, because when God called him, he called me too. It’s a package deal. I support and encourage him every way I can, and he is the most loving, doting man I know! I’m so blessed!

  19. What a great post and so needed today. It has often been said that a wife should be her husband’s greatest cheerleader in life but so few women fulfill this role. They have marriage and their part in God’s creation completely backwards. They think their husband’s life’s focus should be on them and their wants rather than his focus being on the mission God has given him realizing that she is there to help him fulfill his mission.

    It is a very simple equation Biblically speaking – God made man to glorify him by imaging him and he made woman to help him in that task. We as men image God when we create, invent, build explore, protect or fight for what is right. When we find our mission in these areas and do this with all our might we fulfill our purpose in imaging God and our wives fulfill their purpose by supporting us in our mission.

  20. In regard to Catherine’s comment “As in, how much time and effort does your husband put into helping you reach your full potential?”

    So a man gives a set of wedding presents to a groom and bride. He gives the man a tool box stocked with a hammer, a screw driver set, some small hand saws and some chisels. He gives the woman a beautiful silverware set, stainless steel spatulas and a cooking meat hammer.

    A few months after the wedding the young couple invites him over for dinner. To his surprise he finds the man in the kitchen making dinner with the tools he gave him. He is tenderizing meat with his ball-peen hammer. He is stirring a sauce that is cooking with a screw driver. He is using chisels as utensils for people to eat with.

    He then looks out in the wood shop they have to see the wife working on building furniture. She is using the steak knives he gave her as as saws to cut wood. She is using the spatulas as chisels, butter knives as screw drivers and the meat hammer to hammer pieces together.

    This is how ridiculous our culture looks to God today.

    A woman who looks to find her full potential outside of being a homemaker, wife and mother is like that woman trying to use kitchen utensils as wood working tools and men who try to play the part of the woman are like that man who uses chisels as eating utensils.

  21. BGR, you always have such great wisdom! I’ve missed your comments, and hope you and your sweet family are doing well.

    Let your daughter know (and sons too) that I’m praying for them! Your daughter can email me anytime she wants too!! I hope she’s doing well – school can be hard!

  22. That’s awesome Linda 😀 And that’s wise wisdom your husband said about a wife making or breaking his ministry.

    “Yes, we have the same goal in our home, because when God called him, he called me too. It’s a package deal.”

    ^That makes so much sense even practically! I guess for us it’s harder because I didn’t know he would end up becoming a Police Officer when I married him. A lot of wives marry into that profession automatically, but I actually never wanted to be married to a Police Officer, I just thought it would be too hard emotionally and that I couldn’t do it. BUT when he did tell me he felt called to that, it was fairly easy to support him because I could see it was a calling.

    It’s funny how God takes things like that and challenges us with them to test our faith in Him I think. I love supporting him now, but it was really hard a couple of years ago when I made that conscious decision that I would support him, even when my feelings were the opposite.

  23. Stephanie,

    ” A lot of wives marry into that profession automatically, but I actually never wanted to be married to a Police Officer, I just thought it would be too hard emotionally and that I couldn’t do it.”

    What you are describing is being flexible to change. A lot of women go into a marriage with a man when he is on a certain career path and that my change not long into the marriage based on the Lord leading him in a different direction. The change may mean he will make less money, or perhaps his job might require longer hours.

    Sometimes the change in his beliefs. He may have had certain convictions that change based on his personal studies of the Word and prayer.

    Wives often get frustrated about either type change(career or beliefs) because women naturally want security and it makes them feel insecure when things change. But change is a part of life.

    God wants men to moldable to his will and he wants wives to moldable to changes that their husband feels he has been lead of the Lord to make.

    Thankfully you made those changes and submitted yourself both to God and your husband. Sadly many women do not do what you did and this is why divorce so often happens. How often do we hear women say “this was not what I signed up for” when their husband changes careers or changes his beliefs or the direction of their family or marriage? They think they have an automatic right to jump ship and this attitude and behavior is wicked in the sight of God.

    When a woman has that mentality often times it really is a sense of entitlement and it her acting as if her husband was made for her and not her for him as the Bible says.

  24. I understand fearing your husband being in law enforcement. I actually decided before meeting my husband that I didn’t want to marry a policeman because I felt I would worry about him too much. Of course, God always has his own plans!

    My husband served in the military before I met him, so we were a little older and he was still in college when we married. He had almost finished his program when he came home one day and asked me if I’d be upset if he changed his major to Camp Ministry. LOL, I was also expecting our first child any day. I was surprised, but I told him that if he wasn’t going to be happy doing what he had planned, I wouldn’t be happy either, so we made the change. 🙂 He got both degrees, and God has used all of it.

    I’m so glad you are able to fully support your husband, and that you can share about it. Your testimony will encourage other women.

  25. excellent.

    this teaching that a wife’s mission is to support her husband is greatly missing from the church. within that vacuum, women marry falsely believing they are their husband’s mission. this obviously causes all sorts of problems and mischief in a marriage.

    i’ve known other couples whom, after marriage and even after beginning one career, the husband decides to change careers. sometimes this is sincerely difficult on the wife … but not impossible.

    – – –

    Just out of curiosity, can you write this again with an egalitarian POV instead of one where a husband’s life’s work being thoroughly more important than the wifes?

    i think the basis of your comment is in ‘egalitarian.’ i believe (and she can correct me if i’m wrong) that Stephanie is more in the patriarchal camp of marriage, if one is to use current definitions of such. (i prefer the term biblical, but even that is misrepresented).

    my understanding in egalitarian philosophy is that both the husband and wife are totally equal in everything.

    however, i do not believe that is biblical. the bible is clear that there is an order in marriage … that God created Adam first and with a purpose to rule. then, seeing that Adam was alone, created Eve *from* Adam *for* Adam … not for herself. then in Genesis 3 God says, “16 To the woman he said,

    “I will make your pains in childbearing very severe;
    with painful labor you will give birth to children.
    Your desire will be for your husband,
    and he will rule over you.”

    this is more than a curse, it is also a mission, a purpose. we are to and raise children, and desire is to be for our husband who is to rule over us.

    one is not equal to their ruler, so a wife is not equal to her husband.

    the frustrating thing in this culture is that many men are raised in such a way to not comprehend that they are designed to rule their family and therefore are not on not trained in how to do so, they are manipulated into acting like they are subservient to women. feminism says women should, in the very least, be equal to men if not in charge of them.

    when we usurp God’s design, whether we believe in Him or not – He created us and created us to be this way, hardwired us this way – we will not be content or happy, and there will be a continuous discord. often we respond to that discord in the way of culture believing that if the husband would just *listen* to the wife (placing her above her husband) then everything would be just fine. but even when he does *listen* to her, he is still not fine. then they are more confused and try more of the same only for it to fail over and over again.

    only when the husband comprehends his role as ruler over his wife and children does he begin to become who he was hardwired by God to become. and only when a wife comprehend she is to be under the authority of the ruler in her home does she begin to become who she was hardwired by God to become.

    no, it’s not easy. but life isn’t … neither was it ever guaranteed to be. in truth, the bible says that life will be hard and unfair and unjust but that, in His time, God, The Judge, will make everything right.

    yes, it will often cost us to honor and obey and follow God’s design for our lives, but the bible is clear that that is to be in this world, too.

    Satan, the Great Deceiver, will use and manipulate every available and conceivable and inconceivable too and process and anything to plant even the tiniest thought or idea into our brains and minds and hearts that how God designed us is not what is best for us – Satan clearly proved this true when he tempted Eve, and he has not stopped doing so over and over and over ad nauseam without rest or pause since.

    for example … feminism says women should, in the very least, be equal to men if not in charge of them. is this not deceiving of the Truth? see Genesis 3:
    3 Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?”

    2 The woman said to the serpent, “We may eat fruit from the trees in the garden, 3 but God did say, ‘You must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden, and you must not touch it, or you will die.’”

    4 “You will not certainly die,” the serpent said to the woman. 5 “For God knows that when you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”

    6 When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. 7 Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves.

    Satan made a plea to Eve that was so enticing! she could be like GOD! isn’t that what feminism does? it says women could not only be like men but be better than men.

    how tragic when we follow the deceiver.

    the deceiver tries to tell us that since it is hard and not fair and not just when we follow God that it is also not right or good or True. this, of course, is a lie.

  26. Hi Stephanie! My husband has just applied for a law enforcement position and we have been married for 8 years. I have so many questions about the way things will change. I know it is the right career for him and I support him totally. My questions are more life/logistical. Could I email you??

  27. Wow, Words of Gold, I’m sorry your comments were in mod all day, sometimes we’re out and busy with stuff for hours and I forget to check it when we’re back home. I also don’t have my blog connected to my phone so I only see comments once I sit down at the computer.

    And yes, I’ll definitely email you! Being a police wife has been probably the hardest thing I’ve ever done – but even saying that makes me feel like wimp lol! Your husband must be so brave and wonderful to be applying in this atmosphere of so much hatred against them. I’m sure you’re incredibly proud of him, and that will only increase with time ❤ .

    That said, there are A LOT of police-specific things you'll likely go through. I'm sorry I don't usually write on those topics, mostly because I'm still figuring it out myself at times 🙂 . But you're the second woman to ask me about what to expect.

    You may be interested in where I answered her question here: https://girlwithadragonflytattoo.com/2017/10/15/email-questions-why-dont-you-write-more-about-being-a-police-wife/

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