We just got back from a weekend trip – it was fun, exciting, and relaxing somehow all at the same time. 🙂 Since we were in the car for a few hours (both going and coming home), we had a lot of time to talk and reflect on the years we’ve had together ❤ . It’s just been so beautiful – even through trials and such with outside forces, we’ve always felt like we faced them together – not as if the trials put us at odds.
Somehow it came up in those hours of talking, about my husband’s past – and he told me about a girl he had really liked in high school (he’s told me before, we both know about each other’s past relationships) – he thought she was gorgeous and just the perfect angel he’d love to marry – but he was too shy to ever have asked her. If you’ve read our story, him being too shy almost cost him our entire life together, as it prevented him from asking me until I was already in a relationship!
Anyway, he reminded me of her backstory and what she did in college and after. She was Catholic, but in name only, and turned extremely wild and slept with a lot of guys… something he told me would have torn him apart if he had been with her. But thankfully they went their separate ways and he forgot about her for the most part.
He saw her picture recently and brought it up in this conversation that she looks so unlike what she used to – that the years of sleeping around and partying made her beauty (and boy did she have it!!) really fade and made her look older and harder.
She’s married now, he said, and has one kid, but he told me this weekend in the car, that he was so thankful he married me and that he avoided this other girl.
I feel sad for her in a way, this is definitely not a “gloating” post or anything like that. But it is a topic I’m going to eventually let our daughter know.
It’s important to be a virgin when you marry your husband.
It’s CRUCIAL to let him know EVERYTHING you’ve done (good and especially anything bad) so that he knows you intimately – true intimacy and doesn’t feel like you’ve lied to him about anything.
Saving your purity (not just of your virginity, but literally everything – your breasts, any touching, etc.) is really REALLY important to your future husband.
And lastly, you want to be the woman he’s GLAD he married. Not the promiscious angel beauty that he’s glad he avoided (sad!).
Hopefully she will take this wisdom to heart, like I did when my own mother told me.