I love Lori Alexander. I love her brutal honesty and how she just tells it like it is to younger women.
Yes, men will notice a beautiful woman when one comes by, it’s natural and designed by God in their masculine nature to be attracted to a variety of different kinds of beautiful women. I think most women have to deal with little insecurities, especially at the beginning of a relationship or even the beginning of a marriage when they’re still finding out how deep their husband’s love goes for them.
But I’ve found that most men love their wives incredibly deeply.
It is amazingly romantic to understand just how much a good man loves his wife!
So… as long as you’ve picked a man of good character, and you’re not neglecting him or making it easier for him to be tempted by porn or other women, you really have nothing to fear here.
You DO have to fear, however, if you give in to your insecurities and become the traits that Lori mentions in her journal post.
Anger and bitterness ruin the character of a woman… it doesn’t matter what she looks like on the outside, these traits really do make her ugly and unattractive to even her husband.
The quest all of us should be on is to become what Lori writes here:
“Make yourself more beautiful to him
by becoming more kind,
more attentive to his needs,
and more gentle.”
This is what your husband needs, and he wants all that in only you.