“The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” Titus 2:3-5
What is the purpose and value of a wife that keeps her home well, and sets an example of godly womanhood for her children?
I believe the value of a wife who chooses to focus on her husband and children as the most important people in her life, a mother who creates a wonderful place of peace and serenity for her family, is beyond riches and any success one can find on their own, pursuing their own fulfillment.
Fathers are equally important in their different role and purpose for the family, and there is certainly a time and place to argue the importance of fathers in a feminist society that tries to diminish our need for them and erase the beauty of masculinity.
But I want to focus on mothers today, the various pressures we feel to succumb to what society wants or thinks is best for our families, and encourage women to know their value and worth to their husbands and children in fulfilling that glorious and high calling that is a wife and mother.
Being a wife and mother is such an honor, but ironically, I think we as moms tend to struggle with it feeling much less like an “honor,” and much more of an overwhelming responsibility that we’re failing at. With a world that tells us that we’re not fulfilled unless we’re making money, or “doing something productive” with our time, it’s no wonder we don’t feel as though we’re doing something of value at times, especially, for the mother who stays at home with her children.
This is for the mothers that feel like they’re failing, discouraged, or overwhelmed.
Your work you’re doing right now is so productive!
It is so important!
And if we do it with a willing, cheerful attitude, it will make a lasting impression on our children!
Raising our children, being available for them when they need something, playing with them, being cheerful and having fun with them… is productive!
Managing a household, helping our husbands be ready and at their best for work, helping our kids to be ready and at their best for school, all the multitude of tasks that go into making sure these things go smoothly and everyone is taken care of (including ourselves!) is productive!
“God wants to help you make your life a place of order, peace, and serenity.
You are helping shape the lives of your children by everything you do and say.
The job of a mother is a high and holy calling.”
Some things we can all be reminded of in this journey of motherhood:
- We teach our children by your example, we can’t require them to have qualities in their character that we ourselves don’t have a handle on
- Self discipline – are we spending our time wisely, limiting computer time so that we can get more important work done? Are we neglecting our work or be available to our children
- Restraint – I think as mothers, we have to learn the art of restraint, of not giving in to every emotion or word we want to say. Our words, when we’re tired or overwhelmed, have the potential to greatly harm our husband and our children. Being women of restraint, only saying things that build up and are good for those who hear, is part of the santification process of motherhood and wifery.
- Submission – Are we submitting to our husbands? How do you speak to your husband? Do you honor him in the way you treat him? Do you go out of your way to treat him with respect? Do you do things he requests you to do and do them with a good attitude?
Additional Reading to encourage you:
This is not an article trying to diminish the work women are able to do outside the home. I definitely believe a mom who also needs to be in the workforce in addition to her role as a mother, is still a homemaker and a “keeper of the home.” It does become harder, though, to balance and organize life around a job or career and proper care and supervision of small children.