She Can Laugh at the Days to Come

“She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.” Proverbs 31:25

Our Fall Bible study touched lightly on a word I’d not thought much about, mirth, which means happiness, especially laughter.  

What is the value of to us as women of God to be able to “laugh at the days to come?”  When we’re suffering through something difficult, when nothing seems to be going right, or when our mental or physical strength seems to run out, the last thing we usually want to do is laugh at the trials, the uncertain future – this ability to laugh and remain joyous means we’ve found a treasure for sure!

It’s possible to live happy and joyous,

even when life is painful and we experience suffering, trials, or rejection.


The Proverbs 31 woman is packed full with admirable qualities, but I want to zero in on this one little verse and unpack what is so special about phenomenon and what it means.

She can laugh at the days to come because…

She has fully accepted grace.  She’s a sinner and knows it, she knows her failures intimately, but instead of being devastated, unable to move on, or guilt-ridden, she receives grace from God who makes beauty from ashes, and she is able to press on in strength and dignity, with her head held high because she’s been forgiven.

She doesn’t sweat the small stuff.  She sees the trivial things for what they are: insignificant in the big picture.  Instead of getting distracted with unnecessary worrying or drama in her life, she just focuses on living a life that pleases Him.  She is not easily moved or affected by emotions or feelings that are not rooted in Truth.

She goes through trials and suffering, but they are never bigger or more powerful than her God is.  Her faith has reached a maturity where even heartaches and crises don’t shake it, but instead prompt her to cling to God even tighter – oh that we may also have this kind of confident faith!  She is able to “stand firm,” confident that God is for her, and is not moved.

She isn’t worried about what other people think of her, but seeks the approval of God.  When we are overly worried about what others are thinking of us, if they are approving and accepting us or not, it tempts us to do things so people will like us, instead of focus on the things that please God.  It also tempts us to try to control or protect an image that we perceive we have – we’re not able to “laugh at the days to come” because we take them (and ourselves) way too seriously.  When our image depends on us protecting it, instead of trusting in God to defend us against the Enemy’s accusations, we lose our valuable mirth and become controlling, demanding, and unhappy.

She doesn’t let the Enemy play mind games with her.  She doesn’t get stuck in self-hatred, pity, or discouragement, she doesn’t dwell on these negative emotions or feelings.  She goes to God freely with her weakness and brokenness, because she knows that in her weakness, she is never stronger!

She doesn’t just strive to get by begrudgingly through life, she thrives and flourishes in God’s love and acceptance for her.  She may know the pain of suffering rejection like Christ also suffered rejection, but her heart finds it’s JOY in flourishing in God’s love.  She is no longer a victim of others’ misuse, mistreatment or rejection, but is a victor, and because of that confident victory, is able to laugh and have JOY.

She is strong and courageous, and is not afraid of people or battles she’ll have to face because she knows the Lord goes with her, and will never leave her or forsake her (Deut. 31:6).




  1. I’ve had 2 realizations lately that have helped me with this mindset of looking to the future with joy regardless of what comes:

    1. When God gives moments of joy in the midst of suffering, they are even sweeter than the joy the world gives because you know it’s related to that relationship and connection to Him and not something that can be shaken.

    2. Knowing that suffering can and will come, realizing that with God and a healthy mindset and community support, suffering is what causes growth and development and changes the landscape of your life and the future for the better. Times of pain are when the new growth springs up and grows rapidly. That’s cool to think about.

  2. This mindset is certainly necessary for experiencing joy even when suffering. I think it’s very important, though, to remember that the mindset alone is unlikely to be enough to make that joy occur. We may need some mix of “external” help too. It might be the stalwart support of a devoted friend, the affection of a spouse, validation from a brother or sister who knows how to encourage, we might need rest. Sometimes we need to weep.

    I’m not trying to contradict the post at all. Sometimes it’s so easy to focus on one aspect and overlook other things we’ve already learned. If a person is really in a place where the joy isn’t coming no matter how you try to reset your spirit to a joyful mindset, it might be time to remember that Jesus said, “blessed are the poor in spirit: for their’s is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be comforted.” There is “a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance.”

    So, adopt the mindset of joy when you can, but don’t feel like a failure if it turns out to be the time for weeping.

  3. Thank you Lover of Israel! You don’t contradict the post at all, in fact, I was worried after I reread it that I sounded like sadness and a time for weeping shouldn’t be. And that wasn’t my goal for sure, so it’s good you brought it up, yes, sometimes it is IMPOSSIBLE to “laugh at the days to come.” Like in losing a child, losing a spouse, or having a debilitating disease… I think that the laughter and joy may come again at some point, and maybe even through the trial in odd instances, but definitely grieving is a good thing, and those emotions of grieving are the furthest from laughter that I can imagine.

    Thank you for stating that beautiful scripture as well! Yes!!!! Blessed are they that are poor in spirit, that mourn, they will be comforted. And the Lord is close to the brokenhearted – such a comfort to know that!

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