Many people get married for the wrong reasons… be it to get away from their parents, because they want to avoid being alone (aka: they’re not comfortable enough on their own as an adult so they want to codependently live with another), they are pregnant, or they are 29 and don’t want to be that single person still in their 30’s.
I’d say that women are more prone to marrying for the wrong reasons, but I’ve heard of many men doing it too. Regardless, once a person is married, it’s my belief that they should do whatever they have to do to love that person that they chose, and to actively work together with them to embrace the life they’ve chosen. And make it into the most beautiful life they can together.
This short clip from Dr. Laura’s old radio show touches all the key points of a wife, after 14 years of marriage, deciding that she never loved her husband to begin with, and that she just doesn’t have those feelings towards him of being sexually attracted or emotionally in love.
Nevermind they have 3 kids together… kids that depend upon their parent’s ability to love each other and make a marriage work. She just “never loved him” to begin with.
For you singles in the dating market, beware of someone marrying you just because it’s the right thing to do. Or because they’re afraid to be an old maid (they’re 29 about to hit 30 soon). They are settling for you, and you will someday wake up next to them to find a wife that no longer wants sex with you, that tells you that they never did love you.