Why Can’t a Woman, Be More Like a Man?

It was a gray morning.  We’ve been having some beautiful days recently, even yesterday was one of Texas’ glorious sunny and hot days with baby blue skies.  Yesterday, I took my sons around the neighborhood, posting up fliers we made on the telephone poles:  FOUND DOG FEMALE DACHSHUND #….   The most adorable little black and brown doxen came happily up to us as we were unloading and getting into the garage a couple of days ago.  She had a pink collar, was friendlier than anything, and obviously belonged to one of our neighbors.  We know quite a few neighbors on our street (we’re really lucky, we live around some pretty awesome people).  None of them owned her, however, so we found ourselves posting up the fliers as my husband is definitely NOT wanting to keep the little weiner dog, no matter how cute she is.

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Having a dog in our backyard and in our house has been so fun.  We have cats

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Our Male Bachelor Cat

– and they are great in their own way,

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but dogs are just such wonderful creatures.  So honest, so happy to see you, so unashamed of showing you their utter devotion and love!

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They are quite the opposite of cats.  My older son has loved having her around these couple of days, she is love and happiness all balled into one little animal body!

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But back to the post, this morning was gray, and looked a little windy.  I needed to run out to do a couple of errands (and play the Easter Bunny), so I embraced the freedom of leaving the house without kids with glee – threw on my warm, long & cozy sweater over a t-shirt and jeans, and without thinking, slipped into my flip-flops to go out to the car.

Its hard to remember the right shoes when the weather has been pretty hot and sunny off and on.  When I was a teenager/young adult, my mom would always try to get me to understand that girls needed to wear sensible shoes – weather-appropriate shoes.  She told me that men particularly, did not appreciate seeing women who weren’t sensible – women who would wear shoes that showed they didn’t consider the weather… how could a girl like that be a good future mother?  Men want a sensible girl.  I know it sounds harsh, but its been my experience that men really do notice these things – even young guys love to joke about the ridiculous hot girls that insist on wearing daisy dukes paired with Ugg boots during a winter storm and icy conditions.  That scenario is so common here in Texas, they even have memes for it!

So… single women… men notice how you dress – if it is sensible or irresponsible.  Will they always judge you harshly?  No.  But it depends on how offensive the attire is for the weather and conditions.  Guys are much harder on the girls that wear short shorts in the midst of our random winter storms when they pair them with ugg boots.  The ugg boots suggest the girl actually knew better than to wear shorts, and suggests that she is only wearing the daisy dukes so that her legs can still be seen – choosing vanity over practicality to the nth degree.  It’s a little not unlike my being somehow sensible enough to grab my warm, long cozy sweater, but not sensible enough to cover my cold toes!

So while I was out shopping for Easter Bunny trinkets, a sweet older man ended up behind me in line.  Even though we’re in Texas where I swear, people are in general more friendly, its still uncommon for a man to just randomly engage me in conversation.  So I was surprised when he started talking to me.  He knowingly, very sweetly with a kind look in his eyes said to me, “Isn’t it a little cold today for filp-flops?”  I smiled at him and laughed and explained that I made the mistake of rushing out without truly thinking of the sudden weather change!   We had a hot day yesterday afternoon!  Come on, aren’t I excused? 😉   We talked about the weather and how we were both ready for Spring to just stay… and ready for our notorious Summers, and then the cashier was done ringing me up, and I left to go home.

So… my mother was right.

Men notice, girls.  They notice.

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8 thoughts on “Why Can’t a Woman, Be More Like a Man?

  1. “Its hard to remember the right shoes when the weather has been pretty hot and sunny off and on. When I was a teenager/young adult, my mom would always try to get me to understand that girls needed to wear sensible shoes – weather-appropriate shoes. She told me that men particularly, did not appreciate seeing women who weren’t sensible – women who would wear shoes that showed they didn’t consider the weather… how could a girl like that be a good future mother? ”

    To be honest I think you’re mom is projecting a bit here. Men generally do not notice the shoes people are wearing. Men do not often notice or remember upper body clothing specifics either, unless they stand out from the rest in some way, but noticing shoes on random people in public is definitely not a norm for heterosexual men.

  2. I suspect the checkout guy would have started talking to you had you been wearing Louboutins.

    It is a truism, and an accurate one, that men choose clothing for their context, but their choice of shoes is a reflection of personal taste, priority, and values. The shoes reflect the man, the clothing the job. (I think it was Mark Twain who said that first, but I couldn’t find the quote.) I certainly note immediately what a woman has on her feet. Louboutin: “A woman carries her clothes, but her shoes carry the woman.”

    And of course most women, and certainly all women of style, always evaluate a man’s choice, and portfolio, of shoes. Good shoes or boots are de rigeur.

  3. I don’t own any Louboutins, BV… I’ve never understood the concept of paying so much for shoes or purses. My mom always loved a good sale, but those kinds of designer things never get close to what I grew up wanting to spend. But I do love shoes. ❤ My dad is adoringly practical, this is one of his favorite movies (the video). LOL

  4. I know, I agree! My husband wants to get a big dog, he really doesn’t like small dogs at all lol, but we’re going to wait until the baby gets a little older then get a puppy for the boys. I wish we could keep this girl though – we’ve had a couple of calls from neighbors, but no one owns her.

  5. We like big dogs, too. 🙂
    But…the “mom we’ll take care of him/don’t send him away/and so forth”…we caved. Gah! (Hope you find a home for the little guy)
    It’s more “zone defense” than man-on-man at our house, though. 😛
    I miss the baby phase! You have precious children. 🙂

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