Last night I was at a meeting of wives who meet after their busy days, at an office that has been closed, after dark, bringing all kinds of food for each other (and our kids) to eat, all for the purpose of supporting our husbands in their profession. Usually we talk about various projects we can do for our husband’s, events we hold, and general budgeting and planning… but last night we touched on a topic that inspired this post: How to Help Our Husbands Get Ahead.
We talked about the different things we can do to help them pursue promotions (and get raises), practical tips like helping them make notecards, or studying certain things ourselves so that we really know what we’re talking about with them. Being up-to-date on any changes that would affect them or their job tasks such as news items, new laws, and political decisions. It was a great topic, we even went into financial strategies for the quickest ways and safest ways to invest our money so that it would have triple return.
It made me think about how we in this day and age, usually just let our husbands worry about such things and go through them alone – wives aren’t usually making notecards for their husband’s huge exam, or studying his material so that they know how to converse with him about it… wives now-a-days are extremely busy – we’re always running our kids to different activities, handling usually the bulk of the household chores (whether working or not), and the bulk of parenting (whether working or not)… add in a full-time job, and how on earth do we survive let alone help our husbands?
In our feminist culture, a selfish ideology is projected of I want ME to excel… he can handle his own career, you rarely see a wife that is truly interested in her husband’s career advancement – to the point of involving herself to make sure it happens. The thing is, marriage is a partnership, you’re supposed to help each other throughout all of life – many men would help their wife study – its part of their loyal nature and desire for quality time together to readily accept helping her study for an upcoming exam. Women, on the other hand, are usually quick to turn their husbands down, mainly due to all the extra things we’re trying to juggle.
It was an interesting topic, it made me really think about how it’s a privilege to help your husband get ahead – and you will certainly reap the rewards afterwards. Finding the time to really assess what it would take to help him get a promotion or take more classes to advance his career, seems to be worth it for your family and your marriage.
So pay attention, ask him questions, see if he wants to do anything else with his life, and help your man get ahead!