So I’ve written about why Women Don’t Want Nice Men, detailing how nice and kind are really two different things, and how being “nice” will only get you one thing in the end: disrespect. I thought I’d expand on the 3rd point in that post regarding how you should be treated in a relationship as a guy, this goes for if you’re single, engaged, or married.
Some women (maybe all women ) seem to have a little problem with attitude, sometimes we act like princesses that should be carried around like delicate porcelain dolls. This is not good. Women, when they really understand themselves, don’t want that – they want to have fun with their guy, not be put on a pedestal of idolization and have goddess-like worship shown to them. They want an equal, not a man that acts like her footmen when he should be acting like a Knight.
The first thing that all men should understand is that women don’t deserve that kind of thing. They are merely human, and certainly not perfect. I know it can be hard for men, you see a beautiful woman, you think she’s the most amazing thing you’ve ever known, and you immediately want to treat her like a princess and bend over backwards to please her or get her interested in you. The dangerous thing that men need to know is that when you do put a woman on a pedestal, is that you don’t relate to her in the way that she really wants to be related to, and so she either starts to disrespect you, or become completely turned off by you.
So… how do you avoid this pitfall of giving her a goddess card? You don’t put up with Girlitude. Ok, so that’s not a word, I made it up… but that is short for Girlish (or Childish) Attitude, in which a woman treats you, or acts overall, badly. This could range from a sense of entitlement to your wallet – always wanting or expecting you to buy things for her, when you aren’t even that serious yet – to simply breaking a date at the last minute and acting like it’s nothing. It’s something to you if you had to get over somewhere through traffic, and be there at a certain time, and were already anticipating and waiting for her. So don’t act like it’s nothing! Let her know that it was bad behavior.
Women seem to do these things at times, I have no idea why…. In the Manosphere, it is called “Shit Tests,” and if the guy doesn’t “pass” them, the woman loses interest pretty fast.
To be honest, women really do like men more when they call them out on their antics; oh, they may pout and act angry at first but as a guy, you have no other option than to stick to your guns and allow it to sink in for her. Her respect level will go way up once she sees that you are a real man that can tell when she falls into her less than angelic Girlitude. The best example of this that I can think of in theater is in the movie Emma, when she disappoints Mr. Knightley by acting rude to a widow and making fun of her at a party. Mr. Knightley adores Emma, but he explicitly lets her know how much she disappointed him when she acted like that – it was good for him and good for her that he confronted her on her very bad behavior. She is crushed that her image has been tainted in his mind, and she works doubly hard to set everything right – even making amends with the widow herself.
This even works with a woman that is being overly jealous… unless you’re really giving her reason to doubt your faithfulness, it’s a form of Girlitude and it’s borderline manipulation. Call her out when she acts unfairly jealous, it will either reveal that she really is too immature to date and she will move on, or that she can be held to a better standard in herself.
Happy Dating, guys… and if you want extra reading, I found this good article on AskMen.com, the Girlitude principle is described briefly in point #4.