Go out of your way to show love to each other. If your husband is exhausted after coming home from work – let him rest – give him peace in the safe haven of your home. If your wife is stressed and needs to vent or talk, sit with her and talk… or run a bubble bath and chat or read to her as she enjoys it. My husband and I do that little scenario often – and if we had a bigger bath tub, he’d be in it too. There are millions of chances every day to find things to do for each other – and your happiness will go through the roof when you both work to create a beautiful marriage.
“Love must be without hypocrisy….
Show family affection to one another with brotherly love. Outdo one another in showing honor to each other.”
It’s amazing to me how so many couples don’t give any value to what they can do for each other. It is typical of today’s society to only focus on “me” – what can he do to please me? He hasn’t done this, so I’m definitely not doing that! She’s like this, so I’m going to be like that! Don’t be selfish or manipulative (major turn offs in a relationship), and catapult your relationship into a defensive tryst of cruelty. It only takes one person to stop the cycle, and decide that they are going to go out of their way to please their partner, instead of insisting that their needs be met first.
Focusing on each other’s failures does little to motivate each other to change. Encourage each other, go out of your way to meet each other’s needs, care about each other unselfishly.
Find out exactly what your husband needs in a flirtatious and playful way. Find out what drives your wife crazy (and I mean crazy in a good way).
Go out of your way…
Some questions to start your flirtatious day together:
“What one thing could I do for you today that would let you know how much I love you?”
“If you knew I would say yes, what one thing would you ask me to do with you or for you?”
“What would be your perfect night at home? Be as detailed as possible”
(quoted questions from The Most Important Year in a Woman’s/Man’s Life, Susan Devries & Bobbie Wolgemuth)