“We listen with our heart. Finally, the woman of your man’s dreams listens with her heart. She listens to the feelings as well as the facts. She uses her intuition as she processes the information. What lies in the heart of a man is like treasure in deep waters, but a wise woman will draw him out (Proverbs 20:5).” Sharon Jaynes
“A man must at times be hard as nails, willing to face up to the truth about himself and about the woman he loves, refusing compromise when compromise is wrong.
But he must also be tender. No weapon will breech the armor of a woman’s resentment like tenderness.” (from The Mark of a Man)
“A man’s heart is a precious and private thing. A man is less likely than a woman to bare his soul or communicate every thought. His heart is often locked up and protected, a great treasure stored in a secure vault. The inner wealth represents the core of a man’s whole being, the hub of all his activity, his identity as a man.” Gary & Barbara Rosberg
Men hold the key to their heart close – many men have been terribly wounded by the woman or women they’ve trusted – to the point where they honestly believe there is no woman out there who would not take advantage of their vulnerability, so they hide it, behind a rough exterior, behind cool-academic indifference, or by callous humor. Most men simply desire someone to share their heart with – the deepest kind of intimacy possible. They desire someone who understands them, their need to offer strength to the woman of their dreams, the need to feel accepted and not judged for their true feelings, the quietness behind their soul.
This is my encouragement to men, to not give up on women. The feminist movement has had it’s terrible effects on the way women view and treat their men – but there is a reversal going on, the children of the women who callously treated their husbands like dirt are waking up. Not wanting a marriage like their parents’ they are either forgoing marriage altogether (not what I would advocate obviously), or are embracing being a woman – being feminine – and allowing their husbands to be masculine, filling their individual roles. Instead of emasculating their man through their choices and actions or behavior, women are starting to honor and respect and love men again.
Don’t give up hope, your heart and your strength as a man is still so greatly needed in this world.