I almost forgot my need for people – having had a dramatic change in lifestyle over the past month (going from a working mom to a stay-at-home mom), I didn’t realize how much I was craving community with other women. My son and I went to a park yesturday and it was like a huge party of mothers and their children – the ambiance was so serene you could feel the tenderness, love and beauty all around you – it was incredible! And the conversation! After having gone through quite a horrendous experience in my life, these women drew me out, drew me into their circle, and comforted me in ways that are hard to explain.
Women are wonderful – each one is gifted with the ability to encourage others, build up others, and inspire others to become all that they can be. Not all women discover they have this ability, but I’m assured that it’s what we as women were created – intended – to do.
A book I have loved for many years now explains this phenomenon perfectly:
“I love the way women friends have with each other. When I gather with a group of women friends, inevitably someone begins to rub someone else’s back. Hair gets played with. Merciful, tender, caressing, healing touches are given. Men don’t do this with each other. It is unique to women. When women gather, they ask meaningful questions. They want to know how you are. Recipe swapping is all well and good, gardening hints helpful, but women friends unabashedly dive into matters of the heart….
“The gift of friendship among women is a treasure not to be taken lightly. Women friends become the face of God to one another – the face of grace, of delight – of mercy.
“The capacity of a woman’s heart for meaningful relationships is vast. There is no way your husband or your children can ever provide the intimacy and relationship satisfaction you need. A woman must have women friends.”
The book goes on to say that women have the tendency to “mother” others – even if they aren’t an actual mother to any children, they have the ability to nuture both men and women in their lives – meeting a need in the depths of a person’s soul.
“It is about seeing who a person really is and calling him out to be that person.”
Quotes from Captivating (Eldredge)