Art of Seduction
I’ve written before how important sex is to men. How men need sex… how they crave quality sex versus quantity (though they don’t mind quantity). Its just who they are, and how they were designed to be, and is why since the beginning of time it seems, we have always had the oldest sins around – adultery and prostitution. These have always stayed with us, for very basic reasons that a wife would do well to understand.
This is not to say that women don’t also cheat on their husbands, apparently they seem to cheat just as much as men do – however, this post is for women to understand why their husbands may look at porn, have a fling, or a full fledged affair with another woman…. (CONTINUE READING)
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Lesbian Moms, But No Dad?
Heather Barwick is a courageous Gen Y woman who recently has written an open letter to the Gay community about her experience with being raised by two parents of the same-sex. In a world that tries to say (repeatedly) that we are the same – one unisex gender – without realistic and crucial innate differences between the sexes, her VOICE reveals the truth that a father truly is needed. That beautiful, purposeful masculinity is needed, and that when it is absent, something dire is missing.
Read her Open Letter found on The Federalist …. (CONTINUE READING)
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Is He Really Sexually Satisfied?
I want to know… are your husbands sexually satisfied?
It’s a loaded question, one that I wonder if many women dare to even ask their husbands, and one that entitled, spoiled women will never have the gall to ask their husbands.
We have an obligation, a responsibility if you will, as the “gate keepers,” to make sure our husbands are sexually satisfied, and take responsibility for our own sexuality to make sure that we are, as well… (CONTINUE READING)
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Dads & Sons – Leaving a Legacy for Your Children
When it comes to our children, we want to be the best we can be for them – as a mother, this intention is always at the front of my mind as I try to make interactions and daily life as helpful as possible for our children to feel loved and nurtured and ready for adulthood. My husband has frequently let me know it is also something he thinks of often. It’s important to him whether he’s doing things right – being a good father, and leading our older son towards developing true masculinity in a society that tries to feminize men & say that boys are the same as girls. Raising men is a task that needs a father, a good role model…. (CONTINUE READING)
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When an Older Generation Acknowledges You Have a Beautiful Marriage, You KNOW You’re Doing Something Right
So… today we met with our attorney to go over our wills & add in our new baby boy – something I recommend people do every year in January (being a semi-type A personality), its just great to make sure it’s all correct & updated, that no one has gone crazy in your family (to where you’d want to take them off your will or as the guardian of your children should something happen to… (CONTINUE READING)
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Importance of Fathers – Sinister Feminist Article vs. Scientific Evidence Fathers Are Needed
In 1999, there was an article in American Psychologist (a scholarly journal) titled, Deconstructing the Essential Father, of which the point was to attempt to discredit the belief that fathers are actually needed by their children in the role of parenting. It’s mind-boggling to me that such a disturbing article was taken seriously enough to be included in an academic journal… (CONTINUE READING)
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Lover Above Mother – Putting Your Husband First
Us women typically become cranky and argumentative, with a sexual desire that can be as cold as Antarctica – we take our silly complaints to social media sites like facebook to let the world our friends list know that WE ARE TIRED OF IT! The irony of complaining about the very people you love the most (your husband and your children)!
The problem is… once children come, marriage just gets complicated. When do you find time to communicate? Most couples aren’t very good… (CONTINUE READING)
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Young Couples Getting Married: Treasure Your First Year (Letter From My Husband After Our First Year)
We’ve been married 7 years… it’s been so beautiful and wonderful, we’ve grown so much together & through so many different things. That first year, though it was full of new amazing things – us finding out what it truly meant to be united as one… and us reveling in our new sexual freedom as married lovers, I still tend to look back on that first year as being a little hard to adjust in some ways. We read some amazing books (I worked at a Christian bookstore with access to a great Marriage section), figured out how to better communicate, and were more prepared for the trials we would unknowingly face later down the road… (CONTINUE READING)
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Praying for Your Husband in His Work
I’m not sure about you, but my husband definitely needs my support and love in the power that comes in praying over him in his work. He, like most people working full time, deals with a variety of complicated situations ranging from minor every day frustrations to managing several difficult or negative interactions sometimes in a succession right after each other. He especially encounters negativity daily in a way that can wear a person down to a pulp overtime… (CONTINUE READING)
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Parenting… How Parents Should Deal with Adult Children
Let me start out by saying my own thoughts in how, to me, parenting is never really “done.” You don’t just drop them once the child turns 18… a good parent that has worked to have a good relationship with their child, will cross over into the realm of trusted friend and advisor. Obviously, this is something that a “bad” parent doesn’t have the privilege of, since they often did not deliberately work to build a good relationship with their child over the course of them being in their own house and under their rules; they are then often not someone whom that child turns to later on for advice and support.
I don’t ever plan on being out of my sons’ lives, even when they are adults. I want to be there alongside them, having a good relationship… (CONTINUE READING)
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Religious Assurance that God Hates Sex (How Christianity & Early Feminism Messed Up Sex & Marriage)
In our day and age, where topics concerning sex are frequently talked about and seen everywhere, it is hard to believe that there was a time in which, under Catholic ideology in the 4th century, and then becoming doctrine & dogma in the Middle Ages, dictated that sex between married couples was ONLY to be for the purpose of procreation.
Pleasure and sex – or having sex for pure pleasure and bonding in marriage – was prohibited, especially for wives, who “were admonished to avoid enjoying themselves; it was sufficient to welcome one’s husband as a passive recipient, but to share his ardor was expressly forbidden.”* … (CONTINUE READING)
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Don’t Diss the Date Night
I took my son to our beautiful outdoor mall close by to play at the playground, walk around, and go into the big bookstore where they have a great children’s section with train and lego tables. I get to grab a couple of magazines (yes, usually fashion), or read one of the amazing cookbooks around me (they put the tables right under the cooking section… Julia Child I adore you <3 ). This time I saw an interesting article about how important date nights are for your marriage… or otherwise long-term relationship… (CONTINUE READING)
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How Christianity & Early Feminism Messed Up Sex & Marriage
I took my son to the library to return books & movies and pick out a few for the next week. We went late, we were rushed, and the library was about to close, but in we went anyway :) against all odds. We got his new books picked out along with some cartoons, and turned to get Mommy a book for herself. With my 4 year old starting to tantrum, whining that he couldn’t stay longer (they were about to kick us out), I quickly grabbed the first book that looked interesting to me – A History of the Wife – not even completely aware of what genre I was in.
The best things come about when you’re not looking for them – or when you ironically grab a book you would’ve never chosen to read… (CONTINUE READING)
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When You Have to Let Go of Relatives (Bullies in the Family)
We had a situation much like this in our marriage, and have taken a lot of heat for pulling away from the toxic relatives in my husband’s family. My husband finally stood up to his bullying cousin and his family who backed him, and even had to stand up to his own parents who blamed everything on us (him and I specifically). Letting go was hard, but staying in toxic family relationships where every holiday had the potential to end in tears and drama was much harder – especially psychologically… (CONTINUE READING)
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Harsh Letter to a Career Mother
“I’m learning more as the years go by that you are a career-orientated person who doesn’t have a clue or understand the essence of what it means to be a wife and mother. Call me traditional if you like, but I firmly believe that mothers need to spend more time at home, perhaps 100 percent of their time at home, to nurture a family and develop a home.
Far too often, there are too many things that get overlooked by you as a wife and mother as it pertains to this family. Our kids lack focus, training, and discipline. They have no routine and there’s no order about anything they do. Mothers, in my opinion, are nurturers and teachers who ought to spend as much time with their kids to teach them things, skills that they will use to cope with life. To put it bluntly, you haven’t been a mother… (CONTINUE READING)
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When Changes in Your Spouse Can Lead to Divorce
I understand that many Christians (or religious people) think that divorce isn’t an option, that because Christ never said it was ok to divorce (except for marital unfaithfulness) in even dire circumstances, that He truly meant that divorce was never an option. That leaving a marriage was never a valid decision.
Yes, I believe marriage is sacred, and the Bible clearly states that God hates divorce because that is not how marriage was intended to be – the pain, devastation, and trauma of a divorce isn’t something that we were meant to go through. But I also understand how different circumstances can make marriage a living nightmare… (CONTINUE READING)
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Lessons I Learned from a Divorced Man
A repair man named Daniel came over yesterday to fix our sink and electrical mysteries at our house. Just a few weeks ago, he had brought us a new stove as our old one had gone out finally… that and our landlord really likes us. It’s great having a repair guy you trust and can have a lengthy conversation with, I always come away feeling like I’ve learned or been reminded of another important life lesson.
Daniel is in his 50′s and is recently divorced from his wife of 21 years. The day after Christmas (after he spent around $4,000 on new kitchen appliances for her gifts), she told him she was leaving… (CONTINUE READING)
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Help Your Husband Get Ahead
Last night I was at a meeting of wives who meet after their busy days, at an office that has been closed, after dark, bringing all kinds of food for each other (and our kids) to eat, all for the purpose of supporting our husbands in their profession. Usually we talk about various projects we can do for our husband’s, events we hold, and general budgeting and planning… but last night we touched on a topic that inspired this post: How to Help Our Husbands Get Ahead… (CONTINUE READING)
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Couples That Play Together… Stay Together
In our first year of marriage, we had a beautiful new LifeTime gym opening very close to where we lived, we both loved being active and so we thought it would be fun to workout together… and being the sparkly newly-weds in love that we were, we got our gym membership before it even opened.
I remember we would almost use it as a date-time escape, normal people sweating on their treadmills would look at us & probably think we were having way too much fun – or just too much in love… (CONTINUE READING)
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Women Don’t Want Nice Husbands
After writing the article on why Women Don’t Want Nice Men, for singles, I decided that another article was needed in application to marriage, and exactly why women don’t really want to be married to “nice” husbands… or why they so often fall out of love with them.
Just like in the Single article, I want to point out that “nice” and “kind” are two different things; “Niceness exists because he feels he has to be that way, it’s forced and unnatural – women are not drawn to this. Kindness is thoughtful and tender… (CONTINUE READING)
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The Emotional & Spiritual Connection: Having Openness in Your Marriage
It’s amazing to me how many couples can be married for years and years, and yet never learn to be 100% open and honest with each other. I remember years ago watching a movie where the husband and wife were so uncommunicative in their relationship that it caused a multitude of problems for them. They couldn’t or wouldn’t talk about their struggles in life with each other, they couldn’t even be completely honest with each other on a daily basis because of how the other would react (negatively) to unpleasant information. I was shocked how it was obvious that nearly all of their problems would’ve been eliminated, had they just been capable of being completely open and honest with each other… (CONTINUE READING)
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Men Don’t Just Want More Sex… They Want to Feel Full
Sex is intoxicating… but it is also the most misunderstood aspect of a marriage. Most people think that a man’s general complaint is that he wants more sex, when in reality, he really wants (and needs) the most fulfilling, emotionally binding, exciting kind of sexual fulfillment… he just may not even know it.
Men crave not just sex, but a deeper emotional connection with their wives that comes from their wife actually enjoying sex with him, verbally expressing how much she craves him, and the thrill of fulfilling each other’s fantasies in the safe environment of their marriage relationship… (CONTINUE READING)
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Adorable Thoughts From Husbands – What Does He Really Think?
I love men. I just love the way they think…. I love women too, I love how close women can be with each other – I love how they can cry together in a public place, and no one really cares, because… we’re women! I don’t think you’d ever see a group of men huddled around each other crying and hugging *laughs* it’s just unique to women.
But I love how men are so often straight-forward, it’s a quality that I truly admire and try to emulate in a feminine manner in myself by being honest and open… (CONTINUE READING)
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I Wish My Husband Was More Like Hers (& Other Comparisons)
When I was growing up, my mother distinctly taught me that when dating, you should never make comparison statements to your man about other men and how great they are – including even your father. Comparisons are interesting… I’ve thought for a long time that they only serve to bring about two things: pride or dissatisfaction, and never EVER contentment, happiness, or joy. You cannot be content or joyful when you are looking over at someone else’s possessions/house/wife/kids, and are coveting them… (CONTINUE READING)
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Complaining is Not a Virtue
Criticizing, complaining, and nagging are killers in a marriage. Usually, it’s the wife who feels this is her role to fill (someone needs to be unhappy don’t they?), but I’ve seen men who do it too. The effect on a marriage is the same as a serious disease: love dies.
Why would a wife or husband criticize and nag constantly? I’m not really sure I know… when my husband and I were first married almost 7 years ago, I remember being upset that he wasn’t perfect – it was ridiculous, as if I myself was perfect! … (CONTINUE READING)
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The Incredible Power a Woman Has Over Men
A woman can have a unique and amazing ability to help her man achieve his dreams. This might sound silly or too fairytale-like, but trust me, it is anything but silly. It’s pretty serious. If you’re a woman, and you’re reading this, you need to know that you have incredible power in the life of your husband (or any man for that matter).
This power truly does affect any man, which includes family members and even male friends. A woman has the power to inspire, encourage, and believe in them. She has the feminine power to awaken a man’s dreams… (CONTINUE READING)
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Advice for Dating After Divorce
More and more our society is learning to have to embrace “the blended family.” When you are divorced and still have responsibility in raising your children, it can be so difficult to go about dating again. You already know all too well the effects of a marriage gone bad, the effects on you… on your kids. You aren’t wanting to rush into anything permanent – and I think that’s good.
When you are dating, if you are looking for someone to have a relationship with, there are some crucial things you need to think about… (CONTINUE READING)
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Men Need an Attractive Wife
The man who needs an attractive spouse is not more shallow than the one who has different needs, it is just that, that their needs are different.
This is not some ploy to get all women to conform to a Barbie-like appearance (gotta love Barbie though), I’m saying that when a man marries you, it is akin to trickery to let go of your appearance and become someone he wouldn’t have married in the first place… (CONTINUE READING)
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Vamped Up V-Day
Wear something excruciatingly sexy for your husband tonight… something he can’t possibly resist… (CONTINUE READING)
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Man’s Strength Gone Bad
It’s interesting to me that the violence is most often not physical, it’s verbal.
When a man uses his powerful essence to say the most awful things to others, he does incredibly more harm than imagined; it is a great distortion of what he was intended to be. Their strength was intended to be offered with tenderness, and any hint of violence, even verbally, completely derails whatever good they might have accomplished and replaces it with evil… (CONTINUE READING)
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Men: Your Wife Likes to Talk
Women need conversation, men do to, but usually not to the same degree as the female sex. Us women talk on average 50,000 words per day, we typically enjoy conversations at work with our coworkers, getting to know them, their life, and their problems they might be facing, but when it comes to our personal friendships and relationships, the need for conversation is… (CONTINUE READING)
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Sex & Affection: A Horse & Carriage?
If someone was to ask me the secret to what makes a marriage work, I’d tell them it’s what makes the couple stay in love – to know without a doubt that they still feel in love with each other on a regular, daily basis.
Yes, I believe love is a choice, but to deny that being happy together and feeling “happily married” is important, is to deny the basis of getting married at all… (CONTINUE READING)
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A Man Needs a Tranquil Home
Men often fantasize about a home life free of stress and worry. After work each day, his wife greets him lovingly at the door and his well-behaved children are also glad to see him. He enters the comfort of a well-maintained home as his wife urges him to relax before taking part in dinner, the aroma of which he can already smell wafting through the air.
Conversation at dinner is enjoyable and free of conflict. Later the family goes out together for an early evening stroll, and he returns to put the children to bed with no hassle or fuss. Then he and his wife relax and talk together, watch a little television, and go to bed to make love… (CONTINUE READING)
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Why Mistresses Get Your Men
Mistresses Initiate Sexual Contact – “Yes, the man is the pursuer. When a wife pursues her husband sexually, however, it proves that she finds him attractive and desirable. It seems husbands enjoy being found attractive and desirable at least as much as their wives do.”
Mistresses Are Nice – “It sounds corny, but a little kindness goes a long way. Big and tough they may be, men appreciate kind words and consideration. The more brutalized a man is out in the world, the more necessary it is for him to be treated with dignity at home. Terms of endearment, such as… (CONTINUE READING)
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The Sexy Wife
Obviously, wives are female; women; girls…. After marriage, and definitely after having children, too many wives contract the “Frump syndrome,” the symptoms of which include wearing flannel pajamas and socks, or sweatpants with oversized T-shirts, to bed instead of some girly thing with lace; not shaving legs or grooming nails; not washing, styling, or even combing hair; taking off (instead of freshening up) makeup from the day just before your husband comes home; using the toilet with him in the room; not making an attempt to smell sweet (with a little perfume or body oil); and never putting on sexy outfits… in front of your husband… (CONTINUE READING)
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For You Men
Men hold the key to their heart close – many men have been terribly wounded by the woman or women they’ve trusted – to the point where they honestly believe there is no woman out there who would not take advantage of their vulnerability, so they hide it, behind a rough exterior, behind cool-academic indifference, or by callous humor. Most men simply desire someone to share their heart with – the deepest kind of intimacy possible. They desire someone who understands them, their need to offer strength to the woman of their dreams, the need to feel accepted and not judged for their true feelings, the quietness behind their soul… (CONTINUE READING)
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The Controlling Wife
“My greatest struggle has been to have my wife remember that her role is to trust God’s leading through me and not regard me as an enemy. I wish she respected me as the spiritual head of the home, even though she may think she is more qualified to lead herself. God is sovereign despite my mistakes. My decisions for us do not take God by surprise… (CONTINUE READING)
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The Man Behind the Proverbs 31 Woman
I’ve always loved the Proverbs 31 passage of the amazing wife. Many women resent being “held” to a standard so intense – they call her Wonder Woman, or she’s passed off as one of those Super Moms that women are annoyed by because she makes them feel less than. But I admire her – aspire to be her – she is kind, trustworthy, strong, unafraid, she selects beautiful clothes for herself and her family, she makes exotic foods, she wakes up before everyone else to make sure even her servants are served. She cares for the poor and always has open arms toward them. She takes care of herself, dressing in fine purple linen (which was the symbol of royalty). She’s sensible with money, she has her own business (a fashion business? She is designing, making and selling linen garments and belts through the merchants…)… (CONTINUE READING)
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The Pain of Husbands
I don’t know why, but I understand men – at least, I feel like I do. When we were first married we joined a marriage class with our church that met Wednesday nights. It was an eye-opening experience. It gave us a look at marriage at it’s different stages – it was for “young married couples,” so usually they’d been married under 10 years. I’ll never forget the way I saw some of those women treat their husbands in that class – it was actually repulsive to me. Some that had only been married a year, already had major disrespect and communication issues. One woman complained bitterly about her husband (who was sitting right there!) concerning little things… (CONTINUE READING)
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Love Must Be Without Hypocrisy
Go out of your way to show love to each other. If your husband is exhausted after coming home from work – let him rest – give him peace in the safe haven of your home. If your wife is stressed and needs to vent or talk, sit with her and talk… or run a bubble bath and chat or read to her as she enjoys it. My husband and I do that little scenario often – and if we had a bigger bath tub, he’d be in it too. There are millions of chances every day to find things to do for each other – and your happiness will go through the roof when you both work to create a beautiful marriage… (CONTINUE READING)
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